"People marry not because of love
– love knows no marriage, because love will not create any
contract. It is not business. Love knows no marriage because it is
not business, it is not law. It won't reduce the freedom of the
other. If anything, it will increase and enhance the freedom of the
"Love cannot cut the wings of the other. It
will give you more wings, more skies, vast spaces to fly and to
be. But that does not
happen. Marriage is a utility. It is a need, it is not a
celebration. Everything in life has become so mundane, so
burdensome, but you don't know what else to do, where to go.
Everybody is suffering his own suffering. You cannot change places.
Even if it were possible to change places you would not change,
because our own misery is at least ours and we are well
"At a party one man was asked by his wife, 'I hear that the
woman sitting over there is your
The man did not want to create a fuss in the party, so he
whispered; he said, 'Yes, everybody has mistresses here, so don't
make any trouble.'
She said, 'Then tell me who is whose
So he told her: 'This man has that mistress, and his wife is
somebody else's mistress. Things are so
"He told her about everybody. The same women, the same men,
but all have mistresses, all have wives.
The woman looked at all of them and finally said, 'But ours
is the best.'
"Her husband's mistress! It was an
agony, but OURS...! 'Others are being more idiotic – these
horrible women... I know all of them.'
Even the agony, the pain becomes by and by an acquaintance,
old and familiar. You cannot part with it, you will miss