Chapter 9: The Seer Is Not Seen
I have heard about a very rich man, Rothschild. Somebody asked him, “How have you attained so much wealth? How could you attain? What was the desire? How did you become so ambitious?” He was born a poor man, and then he became the richest man in the world. He said, “It is because of my wife. I was trying to attain as much wealth as possible because I wanted to know whether my wife could be satisfied or not. I failed - she was always asking for more. There was a competition between us. I was trying to attain more and more, and I wanted to see a day when she would say, -It is enough.- She never said it. Because of that competition I continued earning, continued earning madly. Now I have attained so much wealth that I don’t know what to do, but my wife is still not satisfied. If one day I want to relax and not get up early in the morning, she comes and says, ‘What is the matter? Are you not going to the office?’”
I told this man, “Don’t get into a trap again. Your whole life you have wanted to rest, and even now she is here.”
A lazy man wants to rest, but when he lives with the wife, a modification happens in the mind. Now a woman becomes part and parcel of his being. He cannot live with her because maybe she fights every day, but that too becomes part of habit. If there is nobody to fight with when he comes home, he will not feel homey.
I have heard that Mulla Nasruddin went into a restaurant. The waitress said, “What you need, I am ready to do.” He was the first customer that day, and it was in India. The first customer has to be treated and welcomed like a guest, because he starts the day. Mulla Nasruddin said, “Treat me in a homey way. Bring things.” The waitress brought things, whatsoever he ordered: coffee, this and that. Then she asked, “Anything else?” Mulla Nasruddin said, “Now sit in front of me and nag. I am feeling homesick.”
Even if the wife fights every day, it becomes a habit. You cannot afford to lose it, you miss it. I told the man, “Don’t bother again now. It is just a modification of the mind, a habit. You are a lazy man.”
For lazy men, brahmacharya is best. They should remain celibate. They can rest, relax and do whatsoever they want to do with themselves. They can do their own thing and nobody is there to nag. He listened to me. It was difficult, but he listened to me. After two years, he retired from the service, so I said, “Now you are perfectly at ease; now you rest. Your whole life you have been thinking of it.” He said, “That’s right. But now after forty years of working, it has become a habit, and I cannot remain unoccupied.”
Retired people die sooner than they were going to die originally almost ten years sooner. If a man was going to die at eighty, retire him at sixty and he will die at seventy. Unoccupied - what to do? - one slowly dies.
Habits are formed and mind takes modifications. You are lazy but you had to work, so mind has become habituated to work. Now you cannot relax. Even if you are retired you cannot sit, you cannot meditate, you cannot rest, you cannot go to sleep. I see that people are more restless on holidays than ordinary days. Sunday is a difficult day; they don’t know what to do. On the six working days, they are waiting for Sunday. For six days they hope that Sunday is coming: “One day more and Sunday is coming, and then we will rest.” And from the very morning on Sunday, they are at a loss for what to do.