Chapter 12: A Meditator Needs No Personal Guidance
After two weeks she came again. This time the boy came very joyously. In fact, he was very eager about how fast the days were moving, and he was counting because he wanted to see the mystic again. “He is a totally different man from all other men you have taken me to.” The woman was surprised because the boy was always resistant, reluctant. He went against his will, was forced to go - and this time he is so eager! He cannot wait for two weeks; those two weeks look like two years.
Finally the day came, and in the early morning the boy took a shower, changed his clothes, got ready. The mother said, “What is the hurry?”
He said, “I want to see the man. He is the only man that I have felt respects others.”
Otherwise, advising others is a kind of humiliation; it is saying: I know and you do not know. I am the guide and you are the guided. I am the teacher and you are the taught. It is enjoying a certain egotism at the cost of humiliating the other person.
They went, and the woman first asked, “Before I ask about the boy, I want to know why it took two weeks for you - is it such a great philosophical problem?”
The mystic said, “If it were a philosophical problem I would have answered immediately; it is an existential problem. I am seventy years old; he is just seven years old. I have lived ten times more than the boy, still I love to eat sweets. And as long as I myself eat sweets I cannot say anything. These two weeks I tried not to eat sweets, and to see what happens. My advice will depend on my own experience, not just on the common opinion that sweets are bad. They may be bad, but if I cannot drop them at seventy years of age, to expect a small boy to drop them.I cannot advise that.”
The boy was immensely impressed. A man at this age tortured himself for two weeks? And he said to the boy, “My son, it is very difficult. I managed to drop sweets, and I have managed now for the rest of my life - but to advise you I feel a little shaky. You are so young. To drop sweets if you love them will be arduous, and to impose this idea on you I will be almost being violent and violating your individual right. So all that I can say is, it is good and it is healthy, but it is very difficult. It is a challenge. You can choose whether you are ready to take the challenge. I have dropped them for the rest of my life; only now have I the authority to say to you that you can also drop. But it is certainly a difficult thing. Are you ready for a challenge, an adventure?”
The boy said, “I drop them right now, and for my whole life. If you can drop them, why can’t I drop them? And you are so old; I am so young. You are getting weaker; I am getting stronger. I can take the challenge; you don’t feel worried about it.”
The mother could not believe what is happening: it is a miracle. The boy is persuading the old man, “I will be able.”
The old man said, “My feeling is, you should also think about it for two weeks, try.”
The boy said, “No. I am dropping them right now in your presence, with your blessings.”