Chapter 7: The Ten Grounds of the Way
Just the other night one person asked about fear: “I am afraid.” I talked to him about death because I could see why he was afraid. Death was in his eyes, death was around him, he was shadowed by death. I talked much about death rather than about fear, and he understood it. I said to him, “Accept death and fear will disappear.”
The next person said, “Now there is no need to ask. I have also fear in me and you have answered.” I looked at the person; his fear had no relationship with death at all. His fear was fear of loneliness; it was a totally different dimension of fear. And I said, “Forget all that I have said to the other person. It was not your question and it was not answered for you. Tell me about your fear.” And by and by it became clear that his fear had nothing to do with death. His fear was fear of being left alone; fear that maybe his aloneness would always remain there.
The first was afraid of death, the second was afraid about whether love would happen or not. His fear was concerned with love - whether he would remain always alone, or would somebody be there who would love him? And would he be able to love? Would there be a possibility that he would be together with somebody and this constant wound of loneliness would disappear? He was not worried about death, he was worried about life. His fear was not concerned with death, his fear was concerned with life and relationship and communication and communion, love. They were totally different, but they both used the word fear.
And when I give different answers to different people, naturally you can collect all the answers and you will see: “This man is mad.” They will be contradictory. They are bound to be contradictory. My approach is individual; my approach is person-to-person. I try to relate with you as individuals.
In the morning discourse you can meditate over whatsoever I say, but whenever you are deciding to do something, ask me in person. Don’t decide it through the morning discourse because you are too many, and I am talking in a general way. The morning discourse is just to make principles clear to you. The darshan is to make practice clear to you, not principle. The morning discourse is just to make you aware that so many possibilities are there to grow, and how to grow. But I am not talking to you personally, I cannot. Darshan is so that you can ask personal questions, you can approach me and you can see your face in my mirror and I can see directly into your eyes. The morning discourse is more philosophical, the evening darshan is more religious.
And if you can remember this difference, there will be great benefit out of it, a great understanding out of it.
Enough for today.