Chapter 5: The Whole Challenge of Life
Look into your own life. If you are attached too much to food, become a little more aware. It is the first search towards oneness. Now even physicists, a few crazy physicists, say that atoms are together because they love each other. The word love is not good to use, it seems anthropomorphic; but now a few physicists are courageous enough to say that it explains something. And it has to be used, because there seems to be no other explanation. Why are electrons, neutrons and protons together? Why this togetherness? There must exist a certain sort of bond, a certain attraction. There must be a certain unity, a certain love affair going on - on the lowest level, but there must be a certain love affair - otherwise why don’t they fall apart? You can call it gravitation, you can call it magnetism, you can call it electrofield, or whatsoever you choose - but love seems to be the best word because it can explain the whole spectrum from the lowest to the highest.
Love seems to be the most economical word: the whole spectrum is included in it. When you eat, and you become obsessed too much with eating, you are just hanging around the first lesson of love - electrons, protons, neutrons, attracted by each other; your body attracting other body-matter from the outside. Of course there is a certain satisfaction, because whenever there is oneness there is satisfaction, there is content - but it is of the very lower, the lowest. One should learn to go beyond it. Hence all the religions teach the significance of fasting.
Fasting does not mean starving, fasting does not mean that you have to kill your body, that you have to be destructive, no. Fasting simply means: give only as much a is needed, not more than that, so that you can become available on the second plane: you can become available to the second center. If you are obsessed too much with food, you will be closed by food; you will become just material. One should not get attached too much to food and one should not get attached too much to fasting either. Then the balance is achieved. And only through balance is growth.
The second center is svadhishthan. When the child is healthy, happy, his body is whole, he starts dominating. A desire to dominate arises in the child, the child becomes a politician. He starts smiling at people because he comes to know that if you smile, people come under your influence. He starts crying, screaming, because he comes to know that by crying and screaming you can manipulate your mother, your father, your family. Once the child’s physical needs are fulfilled, a new need arises that is a vital need: to dominate. That too is again an effort to bring a unity - the unity between the dominated and the dominator.
Whenever you dominate somebody you become, in a certain way, one with him. Whenever somebody surrenders to you, or you surrender to somebody, you become one in a certain way. Hence, all over the world, people try to dominate each other - wives trying to dominate husbands, husbands trying to dominate wives, parents trying to dominate children, children trying to dominate parents, in their own ways. The whole world tries to dominate. If you understand rightly, that too is a search for unity.