Chapter 4: The Greatest Love Affair on Earth
Each child born is masturbatory, because the child first learns to love himself. That is the only natural way. He knows nobody else, he plays with his own body. each child born is naturally masturbatory: that is his first love. The second stage of his growth is, he becomes homosexual - naturally so. He has loved himself: if he is a boy, certainly he starts loving other boys - his love is spreading. Girls are very far away, a totally different kind of animal. He loves himself - it is easier for him to love other boys. A girl loves herself - it is easier for her to love other girls; the boys are a world apart. This is the second step, natural step: masturbatory, then homosexuality.
Then the third thing, the third wave, is when you start loving the other - the opposite. Man and woman are polarities, and when polarities meet, only then is there challenge. Yes, there is conflict - and that conflict is the challenge. A homosexual love affair can be more convenient, true, because there is not much conflict. Both are alike: they understand each other, they know each other’s ways and each other’s mind. There is no polarity - and if there is no polarity of course there is no conflict, but there is no growth either. With polarity, conflict arises, challenge - to penetrate and know the other, to understand the ways of the other. And it is part of spiritual growth that a man should come to know the woman and the woman should come to know the man.
Why do I say it is part of spiritual growth? Just the other day, I was saying that at the last moment, at the sixth chakra - agya chakra - one has to come to a tremendous meeting of the man and the woman. You are also divided inside into two: man and woman. If you cannot meet with the outer woman, it will be very difficult for you to make space for the inner woman. If you cannot love the other on the outside, it will be impossible for you to create a loving space for the other inside you. A man is not only man, he is man-woman together. He is born out of a man and a woman - fifty-fifty percent he is, and so is a woman. and the ultimate inner meeting, the union, the inner alchemy, is possible only if you have learned the ways in the outside world.
When a man falls in love with a woman he is learning something. When a man falls in love with a man he is not learning anything. When a woman falls in love with a man she is learning something - something of the unknown, something of the opposite, something of the quite other. Man and woman in love, means the right hemisphere in love with the left hemisphere.
So if you are interested in spiritual growth then you have to grow from homosexuality towards heterosexuality. If you are not interested in spiritual growth then there is nothing wrong. You can remain - heterosexual or homosexual, it is all the same. I think I have made it clear. If you are not interested in spiritual growth, then there is no problem. I am not against homosexuality, I am not against anything. It is your life - you have to decide; who am I? I am simply stating a fact that ultimately, inside your being, a meeting is going to happen: be prepared for that meeting. And the outer love with the other prepares you.