Chapter 7: First the Thirst
As I see it, Rama could send Sita off into the jungle only because the love between them was so deep that it would never cross Rama’s mind to think that Sita might doubt his love for her. Their love is so unique that Sita could accept whatever happened without ever thinking that Rama would do her wrong. It is everybody but Sita who raises the question of impropriety. Even her sons Lav and Kush were caught up in the question; Lakshmana questioned it, but not Sita. Everyone who reads the Ramayana asks, “Why? What was the matter?” Only Sita has not raised the question; she accepts it.
To love someone is to accept that person totally, the way they are. Then there can be nothing wrong in whatever that person does to you. It is in the very nature of love that though the whole world may find fault, the lover sees no trace of it. The lover has already taken leave of the ego.
Rama can send Sita into the jungle because it is not a sending, it is his own going. Even this much discrimination is not left between them. If one is causing some trouble to the other, one thinks, one considers; but if one is putting oneself into trouble, there arises no question of thinking. To Rama, Sita is so much part of himself that even the thought that there is something improper in sending her away did not occur to him. Sita leaves for the jungle just as Rama did one day when he was told to do so by his father. There is no questioning where there is love, there is only deep acceptance.
What has happened between Rama and Sita is nothing but a supreme incident of love. That they are husband and wife is secondary - a social formality, a social conformity - it is not relevant. In Sita’s mind will never arise the thought of other men, in Rama’s mind will never arise the thought of other women. The idea of other men or women arises only when there is no love. Only when there is no love, when we are not content, does the other attract us.
Love is a non-duality, with no question of any desire of the other. The day you are in love with someone, all women or all men are contained in your beloved. This woman is prakriti, the entire feminine energy of the universe; this man is purush, the entire male energy of the universe, and the whole world disappears for you. This is why there is such a hunger for love. And until such love is found there will be no fulfillment, no matter how many partners you change - and you have already done that.
In the West they are in a great hurry, so they change their partners again and again in a single lifetime. Here, in the East, you are not in such a hurry - you change partners in different lives. But the basic approach is the same. Here in this country we know that it is a long journey of lives upon lives, there is no hurry. One life, one wife; another life, another wife, another husband - we have the convenience of changing this way.
Since Christianity asserts in the Western world that there is only one life, Westerners don’t have the same convenient arrangement available that we have. They have to cram into a single life that which for you is spread across many lives. As a result, being so short of time they are in a hurry. For you there is ample time so you are in no hurry, but basically there is no difference between the two.