Chapter 6: Just to Be Able to Dance
I talk to you, I discuss problems with you; that’s logical, that is using the mind. And then I say to you, “Drop the mind and move into deep meditation. If you dance, dance so totally that there is not a single thought inside, your whole energy becomes dance. Or sing, then just sing. Or sit, then just sit - be in zazen, don’t do anything else. Don’t allow a single thought to pass through. Just be quiet, absolutely quiet.” These are contradictory things.
Every morning you meditate and every morning you come and listen to me. Every morning you listen to me and then you go and meditate. This is contradictory. If I were just Greek, I would talk to you, I would make a logical communication with you, but then I would not say to meditate. That is foolish. If I were just a Hindu, there would be no need to talk to you. I could say, “Just go and meditate because what is the point of talking? One has to become silent.” I am both. And this is my hope: that you will also become both - because then life is very enriched, tremendously enriched. Then you don’t lose anything. Then everything is absorbed; then you become a great orchestra. Then all polarities meet in you.
For the Greeks, the very idea of “love thyself” would have been absurd because they would say, and they would say logically, that love is possible only between two persons. You can love somebody else, you can even love your enemy, but how can you love yourself? Only you are there, alone. Love can exist between a duality, a polarity; how can you love yourself? For the Greek mind, the very idea of loving oneself is absurd: for love, the other is needed.
For the Hindu mind.. In the Upanishads they say: you love your wife not for your wife’s sake; you love your wife just for your own sake. You love yourself through her because she gives you pleasure - that’s why you love her - but deep down you love your own pleasure. You love your son, you love your friend, not because of them but because of you. Deep down your son makes you happy, your friend gives you solace. That’s what you are hankering for. So the Upanishads say: really you love yourself. Even if you say that you love others, that is just a via media to love yourself, a long roundabout way to love yourself.
Hindus say that there is no other possibility: you can love only yourself. And Greeks say there is no possibility to love oneself because at least two are needed.
If you ask me, I’m both Hindu and Greek. If you ask me, I will say love is a paradox. It is a very paradoxical phenomenon. Don’t try to reduce it to one pole; both polarities are needed. The other is needed, but in deep love the other disappears. If you watch two lovers, they are two and one together. That’s the paradox of love and that’s the beauty of it. They are two, yes, they are two; and yet they are not two, they are one. If this oneness has not happened then love is not possible. They may be doing something else in the name of love. If they are still two and not one also, then love has not happened. And if you are just alone and there is nobody else, then too love is not possible. Love is a paradoxical phenomenon. It needs two in the first place, and in the last place it needs two to exist as one. It is the greatest enigma - it is the greatest puzzle.