Chapter 17: The Point of No Return
Don’t deny her feeling. Be grateful to her, and ask her where she feels the ego so that you can drop it. Take her help. You are simply denying it, you don’t feel that you have any male ego. But it is simply a traditional heritage.
Every small boy has a male ego - just a small boy. If he starts crying you immediately say, “Why are you crying like a girl? A girl is allowed to cry because she is subhuman. You are going to be a big male chauvinist; you are not supposed to cry or weep.” And small boys start stopping their tears. It is very rare to find men who are as ready to cry and allow tears to flow as women are.
Remember, you both have the same size tear glands in your eyes, so nature does not make any difference. Listen to the woman. You have suppressed the woman and oppressed the woman so much, it is time that she should be listened to and things should be corrected. At least in your personal life do as much as you can to allow the woman as much freedom as possible - the same freedom that you allow yourself. Help her to stand up so that she can blossom again.
We will have a more beautiful world if all women - and women are half of the world - are allowed to grow their talents, their genius. It is not a question at all. Nobody is higher; nobody is lower. Women are women, men are men; they have differences, but differences don’t make anybody higher or lower. Their differences create their attraction. Just think of a world where there are only men. It will be so ugly: everywhere Morarji Desai, Morarji Desai - all drinking their urine, nothing else to do.
Life is rich because there are differences: different attitudes, different opinions. Nobody is superior; nobody is inferior. People are simply different. Accept this, and help your woman to be free from ten thousand years of repression. Be a friend to her. Much harm has been done; she has been wounded so much that if you can do some healing with your love, you will be contributing to the whole world, to the whole world consciousness.
Don’t feel bad if your woman says, “This is male ego.” It is there in a subtle form, unrecognizable because it has been there for so long; you have forgotten that this is ego. Take her help so that you can recognize it and destroy it.