Chapter 26: In Tantra, Forget about Technique
Sudheer means infinitely patient, and prem means love. Love is patient and everything else is impatient. If there is no patience, there is no love. Passion is impatient, love is patient. And once you understand that to be patient is to be loving, and to be patient is to be in prayer, then everything is understood. One has to wait, and one has to learn how to wait.
There are things that cannot be done; they only happen. There are things that can be done, but those things belong to the world. Things which cannot be done belong to God, or belong to the other world, or howsoever you name it. But things that cannot be done - only they are the real things. They always happen to you; you become a receiving end - and that is the meaning of surrender.
Become a receiving end; be patient and just wait. Wait with deep love, prayerfulness, gratitude - gratitude for that which has already happened, and patience for that which is going to happen. Ordinarily the human mind does just the opposite. It is always grumbling for that which has not happened, and it is always too impatient for it to happen. It is always complaining, never grateful. It is always desiring, and never creating the capacity to receive. A desire is futile if you don’t have the capacity to receive it. So change to orange and become a deep receptivity, and much is going to happen. Your energy is moving perfectly and is flowing. What are you doing there?
I’m a scientist, a geneticist. I work with plants.
Very good. That’s very good work. Working with plants is almost working in a temple.
[to a woman who just took sannyas] What type of work have you been doing?
All sorts of things - which means nothing. I never wanted to become anything.
That’s very good. That’s why you have come to me. If you wanted to become something you would have missed me.
I’ve just finished the Primal, and my girlfriend [sitting beside him] is going into the Primal next month. My feelings have changed.I don’t feel with her or her son the way I thought I did.
Don’t pay much attention to it. It is just a hangover from the group, and it will go. Just let it settle and don’t be worried about it.