Chapter 10: We Shall Meet Again
Unself yourself - listen to Sanai - and in that unselfing, you will be able to get out of all suffering.
And don’t go on blaming others; there is no point in blaming others. Take the whole responsibility - that is manly, that is courage. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders. This is an old trick, to go on throwing the responsibility on somebody else: “What can I do? The family is such, the people are such, the society is such, what can I do? I have to suffer.”
You want to suffer, that’s why you throw the responsibility on others. Otherwise, any moment that you decide to get out of it, nobody can prevent you, nothing can ever obstruct you.
Take the responsibility totally as your own. If you want to suffer, then suffer. But then don’t complain - then enjoy it! This is your choice. Then get deeper and deeper into your own mud, but don’t talk about suffering any more - this is your choice. If you call it suffering, then watch the whole mechanism of suffering. If you want to protect yourself as an ego, then you have to suffer. If you want to throw the responsibility on others, then you have to suffer.
The only revolution possible is through taking the whole responsibility on yourself. “I am the cause of my suffering. Hence I can be the cause of my bliss.”
This declaration is what sannyas is all about, or Sufism is all about, or Zen is all about. The essential religion is taking the whole responsibility for whatsoever you are. And immediately an insight arises: “If I am responsible for my suffering, then it is simple, I can drop it. It is my choice. I will not choose it any more.”
A Sufi mystic who had always remained happy was asked.. For seventy years people had watched him, he had never been found sad. One day they asked him, “What is the secret of your happiness?” He said, “There is no secret. Every morning when I wake up, I meditate for five minutes and I say to myself, “Listen, now there are two possibilities: you can be miserable, or you can be blissful. Choose.” And I always choose to be blissful.”
All alternatives are open. Choose to be blissful. And then there are people who can be blissful even when they are imprisoned, and there are people who remain miserable even when they are living in marble palaces. It all depends on you.
When Alexander came to India, on the way, he met Diogenes. Alexander was interested in Diogenes - opposites are always interested in each other. He stopped his armies and said, “For one day, have a rest. I would like to go and see Diogenes. I have always wanted to see him, now we are so close, just a few miles away, and I would like to have a visit.”