Chapter 24: The Mirror Reflecting Nothing
There are moments when one should remain silent.
A well-endowed woman was waiting to go in for a job interview. She was warned by the receptionist, “Listen, honey, I don’t want to upset you right before your interview but the boss has a bad reputation with women. I have heard from other girls that when he gets you alone in his office, he practically rips the dress right off your back.”
“Thanks for the warning,” replied the girl, “I will change into an old one.”
It is not necessarily true that what you say will reach the other person. The moment you have said something it is beyond your control. Now it is in the control of the person who has heard it. The person has absolute freedom about the kind of interpretation he is going to give it. And things like meditation should not be allowed to be misinterpreted because it is dangerous. If the person gets things wrong once, he will carry the wrong impression his whole life.
Just out of compassion for others, don’t say things which can be misinterpreted, which are bound to be misinterpreted because the other person has no experience parallel to it. Then he will carry that misinterpretation his whole life. You have prevented him from finding the right source and the right feel for a meditative state.
I can understand why you are asking, “How to talk about it?” It is intrinsic to meditation that the moment you feel the joy and the bliss, it wants to be shared. And you know only one way of sharing, and that is talking. You will have to learn new ways of sharing.
Meditation is a new way of being, it needs a new way of sharing. Words belong to the mind; meditation is a state of no-mind. Don’t make the effort to bring it into words.
One Zen master was sitting on the beach and a very curious person came and said, “I am in a hurry so I don’t want a long explanation. Just say to me in short, what is this meditation that you all go on bragging about?”
The Zen master remained silent, as if he had not heard it. The man said, “What is the matter? Are you deaf?”
He said, “No, I am not deaf, but you are not in a position to understand what meditation is. Neither do you have time, nor do you have any longing. The way you have proposed your question is so humiliating, insulting; I am not obliged to satisfy your curiosity. Meditation never happens to people who are only curious. Are you thirsty for it?”
The man said, “I have never thought about it.”