Chapter 5: This Is Egoism
Look: Jesus is crucified on the cross, and what is the pope of the Vatican doing? He has a gold cross around his neck. Jesus is hung on the cross, and around the pope’s neck the cross is hanging, and it is a gold cross. Jesus had to carry his own cross; that cross was not golden. How can crosses be golden? His was very very heavy. He fell while carrying it on the hillock of Golgotha. Under the weight he fell, he fainted. Have you seen any priest fainting under the weight of the golden cross? No, it is a false substitute. It is a trick. Now this is no longer religion, this is part of the social politics. Christianity is politics, Hinduism is politics, Buddhism is politics. Buddha, Jesus, Krishna, they are not social at all. They are not anti-social - they are beyond society.
So there are two dangers for society: anti-social people, criminals; you can tackle them. They may be dangerous but something can be done about them; they are not that dangerous. Then there is a group of people which is beyond society. They are impossible, you cannot change them. They will not be ready to make any compromise.
The society creates an ego because the ego can be controlled and manipulated. The self can never be controlled and manipulated. Nobody has ever heard of the society controlling a self - not possible. And the child needs a center; the child is completely unaware of his own center. The society gives him a center, and the child is by and by convinced that this is his center, the ego that society gives.
A child goes back to his home. If he has come first in his class, the whole family is happy. You hug and kiss him and you take the child on your shoulders and dance and you say, “What a beautiful child! You are a pride for us.” You are giving him an ego, a subtle ego. And if the child goes home dejected, unsuccessful, a failure, he couldn’t pass, or he has just been on the back bench, then nobody appreciates him and the child feels rejected. He will try hard next time, because the center feels shaken.
Ego is always shaken, always in search of food, that somebody should appreciate it. That’s why you continuously ask for attention. That’s why ego has always been a misery. If the husband comes into the room and doesn’t look at his wife, there is trouble. If he is more interested in his newspaper there is trouble - how dare you be more interested in the newspaper when your wife is there? If a man is very very great, then his wife is always a problem. The contrary will also be so: if a wife is very very great, her husband will be a problem. Ask the wives of great men - because a great man has many deeper things to do. A Socrates.he was more interested in meditation than in his wife, and that was a wound. Socrates’ wife was continuously nagging. He was more attentive to somewhere else - “something is more important than me?” - and this shakes the ego.
I have heard: Mulla Nasruddin and his wife were coming out from a cocktail party, and Mulla said, “Darling, has anybody ever said to you how fascinating, how beautiful, how wonderful you are?”
His wife felt very very good, was very happy. She said, “I wonder why nobody has ever told me this?”
Nasruddin said, “Then from where did you get the idea?”