Chapter 7: The Mystery of Relationship
What have you got to lose? Nothing. This body will be taken by death. Before it is taken by death, give it to love. Whatsoever you have will be taken away. Before it is taken away why not share it? That is the only way of possessing it. If you can share and give you are the master. It is going to be taken away. There is nothing which you can retain forever. Death will destroy everything.
So if you follow me rightly, the struggle is between death and love. If you can give there will be no death. Before anything can be taken away from you, you will have already given it, you will have made it a gift.
There can be no death. For a lover there is no death.
For a non-lover every moment is a death, because every moment something is being snatched away from him. The body is disappearing, he is losing every moment. And then there will be death, and everything will be annihilated.
What is the fear? Why are you so afraid? Even if everything is known about you and you are an open book, why fear? How can it harm you? Just false conceptions, just conditionings given by the society, that you have to hide, that you have to protect yourself, that you have to be constantly in a fighting mood, that everybody is an enemy, that everybody is against you.
Nobody is against you. Even if you feel somebody is against you, he too is not against you - because everybody is concerned with himself, not with you. There is nothing to fear. This has to be realized before a real relationship can happen. There is nothing to fear.
Meditate on it. And then allow the other to enter you, invite the other to enter you. Don’t create any barrier anywhere; become a passage always, just open, no locks, no doors on you, no closed doors on you. Then love is possible.
When two centers meet there is love. And love is an alchemical phenomenon - just like hydrogen and oxygen meet and a new thing, water, is created. You can have hydrogen, you can have oxygen, but if you are thirsty, they will be useless. You can have as much oxygen as you want, as much hydrogen as you like, but the thirst will not go.
When two centers meet a new thing is created. That new thing is love - it is just like water. The thirst of many, many lives is satisfied. Suddenly you become content. That is the visible sign of love; you become content, as if you have achieved everything. There is nothing to achieve now; you have reached the goal. There is no goal anymore, the destiny is fulfilled. The seed has become a flower - has come to its total flowering.
Deep contentment is the visible sign of love. Whenever a person is in love he is in deep contentment. Love cannot be seen but the contentment, the deep satisfaction around him - his every breath, his every movement, his very being, content.