Chapter 26: Memory Is Not Understanding
Is it enough to go to your discourses without understanding the words? My Japanese girlfriend does not speak any English but enjoyed your lectures very much.
She wrote to me that she will not learn English because it is too dangerous for her to understand what you say. Can the non-verbal communication between master and disciple really be the ultimate, or should I develop all the abilities that existence gave me and learn English?
Anand Alok, the real communion between the master and the disciple is certainly not through words. On the contrary, words are hindrances. Your Japanese girlfriend is absolutely right. If she can enjoy just being in my presence, there is no need to learn the language.
She is also right that it is dangerous to understand me through words - dangerous for two reasons. The more basic reason is that she will start connecting with me through the mind, and that is no connection. That is just a false and pseudo supplement, substitute for the authentic connection that is heart to heart. And secondly, it is true that what I am saying is dangerous, because it may disturb her conditionings, it may disturb her prejudices, it may disturb her completely. But tell her to remember that a heart-to-heart communion is far more dangerous than any communion between minds, because your mind can have safety measures, defenses.
The heart is open; there are no safety measures, no defenses. Your mind may interpret me according to your prejudices - then it need not be disturbed - but your heart will simply take me in without any interpretation on its own part. She has chosen the more dangerous path, but the more sincere, more authentic and the most shortcut.
So don’t disturb her and force her to learn the language. Language has to be forgotten. You have to forget, you have to unlearn all that you know. In the space of unlearning your innocence starts growing. I speak just to help you to understand my silent gaps. But what I am really doing is in the silences - not through the words, but between the words. Words are just toys that I am giving to your mind to play with. Silence is really the sword that penetrates directly into your heart; it brings transformation.
Mind is very reluctant to change, very stubborn in changing. It has so much investment in its past that it is almost blind to the future possibilities. The heart has no past, it has only the present and an opening into the future. It longs for the unknown, for the mysterious. It is not satisfied with the mundane, it is not satisfied with money or power, or prestige. Its longing is for something beyond the ordinary, beyond ambitions, because only beyond ambitions is the land of the lotus paradise.
Your Japanese girlfriend has a deeper understanding than you have. In fact, it is a strange coincidence that you are Chinese.