Chapter 19: Each Relationship Is a Mirror
People see him running and can’t believe it. They say, “But this is impossible, you can’t run!” Then he becomes aware of what he is doing and falls down. How can he run? - one can never go against the experts. But he has run!
Every paralyzed person can be hypnotized, and in hypnosis he starts walking. That means that the body is functioning perfectly, it is just that the belief somewhere is not cooperating.
So tell him, mm? And I will be working on him.
My life seems to be governed by fear. Can you help me?
(a little chuckle) I will help, that’s why I am here! Everybody’s life, more or less, is governed by fear, because there are only two ways to live life. Either it can be governed by love, or it can be governed by fear. Ordinarily, unless you have learned to love, it is governed by fear.
Without love, fear is bound to be there. It is just an absence of love. It has nothing positive in it; it is just absence of love. But if you can love, fear disappears. In the moment of love there is not even death.
There is only one thing in life that conquers death and that is love. All fear is concerned with death - and only love can conquer death.
So one thing I would like to say to you is, don’t pay too much attention to fear because it becomes an autohypnosis. If you go on repeating that you live by fear, your life is governed by fear, you are dominated by fear - and fear, fear, fear - then you are helping it. Take note of it: that your life is governed by fear - finished! It simply shows that love has not yet become so powerful that fear disappears.
Fear is just a symptom, it is not a disease. There is no cure for it; there is no need. So it is just a symptom, and it is very useful because it shows you that you should not waste your life any longer. It simply says to you to love more.
So I will not talk about fear. I will help you to love more - and fear disappears as a consequence. If you start working directly on fear you strengthen it, because your whole attention will be focused on it. It is as if somebody is trying to destroy darkness, and becomes focused, obsessed, with how to destroy darkness. You cannot destroy darkness because it is not there in the first place. Note the fact that darkness is there - and then start working on how to bring in light.