Chapter 7: Life’s Complementariness
Why in the first place did religions develop the idea of celibacy if it is unnatural?
There are many reasons behind it. The most fundamental reason is: the man has always found himself a weaker sex - as far as sexuality is concerned - compared to the woman. His ego is hurt, and the male ego is very aggressive. The feminine ego is totally different: it is non-aggressive, it is receptive. Everything in the feminine psychology is receptive and everything in the male psychology is aggressive.
That’s why they complement each other, that’s why they fit with each other, that’s why they miss each other, that’s why they feel only half without the other. That’s why love is possible. Their chemistries, their physiologies, their psychologies, all are complementary - and of course logically opposites, existentially complementary.
Man is sexually weaker. Any woman can exhaust him very easily, and once a man is exhausted he will take at least twenty-four hours to be sexually potent again. That hurts. The woman is twenty-four hours sexually potent; man is only once in a while potent and the remaining time impotent. For one moment he is potent, then for twenty-four hours impotent; then again for one moment he is potent. His impotence is far bigger than his potency, than his power, than his sexuality. That created a deep urge in him to create a certain other kind of power.
Celibacy was just an effort of the male chauvinist ego, because through celibacy he thought he could become very powerful. It is through sex that he becomes impotent; once his sexuality is released he is at a loss. Then he has to wait for time to heal. He becomes like a wound - empty. And he can see that the woman is never empty, she is always capable. Always comparing with the woman, he discovered celibacy. It is a natural and logical conclusion: that sex makes you impotent; then celibacy, obviously, will make you omnipotent. And this is not something primitive; even today the logic is the same.
Even a man like Mahatma Gandhi was continuously concerned, how to become omnipotent through celibacy; he was trying in every way to become powerful through celibacy. He was thinking that if he is really celibate he can defeat the British Empire - through celibacy! If he is really celibate then nobody can kill him.
In his ashram it was a usual phenomenon: somebody will do something wrong.nothing much in it, but his idea was too puritan. Even drinking tea was a sin! Now you can think - every man becomes a sinner. If even drinking tea is a sin, then it is very difficult to find a saint. The whole ashram was continuously watching each other, who is committing sins? Somebody smoking, somebody drinking tea, somebody falling in love.all are great sins!