Chapter 6: Love Is Dangerous
As a wave it was one with the ocean; however, if it becomes a chunk of ice it will survive, of course, but then it will be cut off from the ocean. And how long will it survive in that state? Whatsoever is frozen will undoubtedly melt. A poor wave will melt a little sooner, while a rich wave will take a little longer - what else? The sun rays will take a little longer to melt a big wave, while a smaller wave will melt sooner. It is only a question of time, but melting is bound to happen. The wave will melt and it will make a big hue and cry, because as soon as it melts it will disappear. But if the wave, by falling back into the ocean, were to make itself cease to exist as separate, if it were to come to know that it is in fact the ocean, then there wouldn’t be any question of the wave’s disappearing. Then whether it disappears or remains, it still exists - because it knows that “I am not a wave, I am the ocean.” When it disappears as a wave, it still exists - in a state of rest. When it rises, it is in a state of activity. And resting is no less enjoyable than being active. In fact, it is even more enjoyable.
There is a state of activity and there is a state of rest. What we call sansara, the world, is the state of activity, and what we call moksha, liberation, is the state of rest. It is like a restless wave which crashes against the wind and wrestles with it, and then it falls back into the ocean and disappears. It still exists. Whatever it was before in the ocean, it is now still the same, but it is at rest. However, if a wave were to assert itself as a wave, it would be filled with ego, and then it would want to break itself away from the ocean.
Once you get the idea that “I am,” then how can you be with the rest of the all? If you choose to be with the all, then the “I” is lost. That’s why the “I” insists, “Break away from the all.” And how interesting it is, that breaking away from the whole makes you miserable. And then, once again, the “I” says, “Relate with the all” - such is the tortuous way of the “I.” First the “I” says, “Break yourself away from the all, isolate yourself; you are different from the whole. How can you remain connected?” So the “I” snaps itself away; but then it gets into trouble - because, as soon as the “I” separates from the all, it becomes miserable; its end approaches. As soon as the wave comes to believe it is separate from the ocean, it begins to die, its death comes nearer. Now it will fall into the struggle to protect itself from death.
As long as it was one with the ocean, there was no death at all - because the ocean never dies.
Remember, an ocean can be without a wave but a wave cannot exist without the ocean. You cannot conceive of a wave without the ocean - the ocean will be present in the wave. The ocean, however, can exist without a wave. When they are an integral part of the ocean, all waves exist in peace and rest. But the moment a wave strives to save itself from the ocean, difficulties arise - it cuts itself off from the ocean and its death begins.
This is the reason one who is to die wants to love. The reason all of us, who are going to die, are so eager to love is that love is the obvious means to connect. That’s why no one wants to live without love and be miserable. Everyone is seeking love: somebody wants to receive your love, somebody wants to give you love. And for the man who does not find love it becomes a problem. But have we ever wondered what the meaning of love is?