Chapter 11: The Law of Grace
People who have not been loved in their childhood continue to eat more. No dieting can help unless love arises. They will eat. Eating has become a substitute for love. If somebody loves you, you will immediately see that your overeating has stopped.
Love and food both come from the mother’s breast. The first experience of love is from the mother’s breast and the first experience of food is also from the mother’s breast. So love and food become associated. If there is less love, it has to be substituted with more food,
If love is enough, you can afford not to eat much. There is no need. Have you watched it? Whenever you feel deep love, hunger disappears. You don’t feel hungry. Love fulfills you so deeply that you feel full. Then one starts eating less and less.
One woman was talking to me. She was very puzzled. Her husband had died and she told me, “One thing I have been keeping a secret. I have not told it to anybody because nobody will understand. But you may understand, so I am telling you. And I will be unburdened whether you understand it or not. But please don’t tell this to anybody.”
I said, “What has happened?”
She said, “When my husband died, at night I felt so hungry. And the corpse was lying in the house. And what would people think if I ate in the night? The whole family was awake, and relatives had come and friends were there, all together. And I felt such a deep hunger, such as I have never felt.”
So she had to go in her own kitchen like a thief. In darkness, she ate. And now, since then, she has been feeling guilty: “My husband had died. Was that the time to feel hungry? And his corpse was lying there, and I was like a thief, eating in darkness in my kitchen.”
She asked me, “What happened?”
I said, “It is a simple fact. The person you loved died. Immediately, you felt empty. Now that emptiness had to be filled by something.”
Since then I have been talking to many people and I have come to the conclusion that whenever you are sad, you eat more. Whenever you are in a deep sorrow, you feel more hungry. Whenever you are happy, flowing, cheerful and loving, and love is showering on you, who bothers to eat much? Even a small amount of food is enough nourishment then, because love is giving so much nourishment.
People who can’t love will always become misers, possessive, accumulators of things. And people who accumulate things can’t love, and those who can’t love - how can they enter into the kingdom of God? Yes, Jesus is right:
“For it is easier for a camel
to go through a needle’s eye
than for a rich man
to enter into the kingdom of God.”