Chapter 25: You Need a Divine Discontent
Loyalty is a totally different matter; it is manufactured by your own mind, it is not something beyond you. It is a training in a particular culture - just like any other training. You start acting; and by and by, you start believing your own acting. Loyalty demands that you should be always, in life or in death, devoted to the person - whether your heart is willing for it or not. It is a psychological way of enslavement.
Love brings freedom.
Loyalty brings slavery.
On the surface, they both look alike; deep down, they are just the very opposite - diametrically opposite. Loyalty is acting, you have been educated for it. Love is wild, its whole beauty is in its wildness. It comes like a breeze with great fragrance, fills your heart, and suddenly where there was a desert there is a garden full of flowers. But you don’t know from where it comes, and you don’t know that there is no way to bring it; it comes on its own and remains as long as existence wills it. And just as it had come one day as a stranger, as a guest, suddenly one day it is gone. There is no way to cling to it, no way to hold it.
Society cannot depend on such unpredictable, unreliable experiences. It wants guarantees, securities; hence, it has removed love from life completely - it has placed marriage in its place. Marriage knows loyalty, loyalty to the husband, and because it is formal, it is within your hands.but it is nothing compared to love, it is not even a dew drop of the ocean that love is.
But society is very happy with it because it is reliable. The husband can trust you, can trust that tomorrow also you will be as loyal as you are today. Love cannot be trusted. And the strangest phenomenon is that love is the greatest trust - but it cannot be trusted. In the moment, it is total; but the next moment remains open. It may grow within you, it may evaporate from you. The husband wants a wife who is a slave for her whole life. He cannot depend on love; he has to create something looking like love, but manufactured by man’s mind.
It is not only in the relationship of love, but in other fields of life, also. Loyalty has been given great respect because it destroys intelligence: the soldier has to be loyal to the nation.. The man who dropped atom bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki - you cannot call him responsible for it, he was simply fulfilling his duty. He was ordered, and he was loyal to his superiors; that is the whole training of armies.
For years they train you, so that you become almost incapable of revolt. Even if you see that what is being asked from you is absolutely wrong, still your training has gone so deep to say, “Yes, sir,” that you will do it. I cannot conceive that the man who dropped the bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki was a machine. He also had a heart just like you, he also had his wife and children, his old mother and father.he was as much a human being as you are - with a difference. He was trained to follow orders without questioning, and when the order was given, he simply followed it.