Chapter 8: The Essence of Existence
Your wife has as much right to her freedom as you demand for yourself. And if you find that, no, it is not right that your wife becomes interested in other men, then your being interested in other women is also not right. What you expect of your wife you should become, you should act in the same way. Only then do you have any right.
Drop running after desires. And this I say unto you: women are certainly not as desire-ridden as men are. In women there is a certain feeling of surrender. In women there is a certain sincerity and faith and trust. Man’s love is shallow, not deep - it is just on the surface. In the life of a man love is not all, there are many other things. In the life of a woman love is all there is, and all things are contained within this love. In the life of a man there are many other activities, among which love is just one activity. In the life of a woman there simply is no other activity. All other activities are contained in love.
Man is licentious, man is unsteady, and you can see this in very small children too. A small boy cannot sit quietly. He will knock things over, he will open up clocks, he will start catching flies, he will do something or other and he will not do it half-heartedly. A small girl will sit quietly in a corner, perhaps holding her doll to her heart. And remember this, that even while the child is still in the womb the mother can know whether it is a boy or a girl. If the woman is a little sensitive she will know, because a boy creates disturbance right from the start. Sometimes he will give a kick, or somehow he will shake his head. A girl is quiet. An experienced mother will know whether it is a boy or a girl. She will know by the amount of disturbance.
There is a scientific reason for this. Biology says that the personality of a woman is balanced; the personality of a man is not balanced. The genes in the woman are even in number. A person is born out of the meeting of two cells - the two sex cells of a man and a woman. In a man there are chromosomes containing twenty-four genes and also ones of twenty-three genes: there are two kinds. In a woman there are only chromosomes of twenty-four genes. When a man’s twenty-four-chromosome gene unites with a woman’s twenty-four-chromosome gene, a girl is born. Then there are forty-eight chromosomes - the balance is even, just like in the two trays of a scale. And when a man’s twenty-three-chromosome gene unites with the twenty-four-chromosome gene of the woman, a boy is born. Then there are forty-seven genes. As if one side of the balance is lower and one is higher - unbalanced. In women there are twenty-four from each side. This is why a woman is more beautiful, more proportionate, more peaceful. There is a kind of equanimity. There is a kind of stability. There is a certain roundness in the personality of a woman. There is a little angularity in a man, he is square-cut. This is the scientific reason for this difference.