Chapter 43: The Blessed Ones
If he sees these pillars here, they are phallic. You have been sitting by these pillars. You have never thought that these are phallic symbols, that they represent the man’s longing to have a long genitalia. But this long genitalia, the man will have to carry it on a truck ! And what will happen about women? He cannot chase women, he is stuck with his truck.
Anything! Fountain pens, pencils - everything is phallic. He has a cloud over his vision. He himself is over-sexual, too much repressed. His repression is creating a certain smoke, and it is coming out into his writings. They are hilarious! You give him anything, and within minutes it is turned into something sexual. You could not have conceived that this thing can be turned into sexuality. Every hole becomes feminine sexuality. This is not psychology, this is psychopathy.
And one of his disciples, who said that “There are things which are connected with man’s sexuality, but I cannot agree that everything is sexual” - he found another fiction: will to power. For Alfred Adler, psychology simply became synonymous with will to power. Whatever you are doing, it is nothing but will to power. You say, “I have fallen in love” - all wrong. According to him this is a strategy to be powerful over the woman. And that’s why she is trying to escape from you. She knows the real purpose.
But she also cannot escape too far, because she has also the same psychology: she wants power over you. So every husband and wife are continuously in a power struggle. Children and parents are in a power struggle. Students and teachers are in a power struggle. Everywhere the whole business of life is reduced into a power struggle - will to power.
According to Adler, sex becomes nothing but will to power. He was not aware of Eastern literature on sexology, which goes far back - five thousand years old. Vatsyayana’s maxims on sex describe eighty-four postures of lovemaking. But Adler knew only one posture - the missionary posture.
It is called the missionary posture in the East, the man on top. The East became aware for the first time of this brutality when Christian missionaries went there to spread the word of God. People simply laughed. How can a man who is loving, lie on a woman who is delicate, smaller, fragile ? The brute is on top of the beauty - and he does not allow her to move, because to move is not ladylike. That is the meaning of the word lady - a good lay. But a good lay means a dead lay. The woman has to lie down completely dead, and the brute goes on doing exercises, gymnastics, pushups, and this he calls love.
In the East it has been accepted that the woman should be on top. And it seems to be more natural. Man is stronger, more muscular, taller. And it is sexologically also significant that the woman should be moving, because if the man moves and woman remains unmoving, the man comes to his orgasm within seconds, and the woman has not even started yet. He is finished; gets down and goes to sleep. The woman cries, because she is simply being used, and to be used hurts more than anything else. This is not love. You have not taken any care about the woman, what happens to her.