Chapter 14: The Ego on the Tip of the Nose
This foolish question comes again and again so it is better to be finished with it.
The first thing: the East has developed a totally different kind of psychology than the West. The needs are different. Different medicines are needed.
In the West the psychology that has grown down the ages is extrovert; it is outgoing. The psychology that has been developed in the East is introvert; it is ingoing. For a real Eastern person growth groups are not needed. He needs meditations like vipassana or zazen - zen in which he can forget the whole outside world and just drown in his own being. He does not need any relationship. Relating is not needed. He needs only to unrelate himself from the world, to be in a state of total, utter aloneness. Deep solitude is needed.
Down the centuries the East has developed introversion; it is very natural for the real Eastern person to be introverted. I am saying the real Eastern person because it is very difficult to find a real Eastern person. The West has contaminated everybody. The Western education, the Western victory over nature, the Western domination of the East, has contaminated everybody. The real Eastern mind does not have any need to do any growth groups.
The growth group is needed because you have a tremendous need to relate, to love, to communicate. In the West the basic problem is how to communicate, how to relate. Many Westerners are here. When they come to me in darshan their problems are a hundred per cent relationship problems - how to relate.
Not even a single Indian has come who has said, “How to relate?” That is not a problem at all. He says, “How to be silent? How to be into one’s own being?” His question is how to drop out of relationship. He wants to be non-attached, he wants to break all the bridges that exist. He wants to know how to live in the world and yet live in such a way that he does not live there, he is far away in the Himalayas. Even if one has to live in the world one wants to live in the world of the Himalayas - at least spiritually, inwardly. Not a single Indian comes who says, “This is my problem - how to relate to my wife, how to relate to my son, how to relate to my mother, how to relate to my friend.” Relationship is a question of group dynamics. The Indian asks, “How not to relate? How to forget my wife, how to forget my children, how to forget my job, how to be just alone in my inner being - crystal-pure, clean, non-reflecting, with not even a shadow moving there?”
This is a different psychology. Both are ways to reach the ultimate: one is meditation, another is love. The East has developed the mind for meditation, the West has developed the mind for love. Love means relationship, meditation means non-relationship.