Chapter 24: Death Is the Door
I have said that man is afraid of both sex and death. That’s why they are taboos. No one talks about sex and no one talks about death. We remain silent about those two things. We have remained silent for centuries and centuries. They are taboo subjects, they should not even be mentioned. The moment they are mentioned, something starts trembling within us.
It seems that there is a deep repression. That’s why we have created substitute words. In the western world they do not say “We are having sex.” They say “We are making love.” It’s a substitute word - and false, because love is a totally different dimension. Having sex is having sex, it is not making love. Love may include sex, but love has an altogether different quality.
We never talk directly about death. If someone dies, we use substitute words. We say he has gone to the Father, or he has gone to heaven. Death is never faced directly.
We have created many false phenomena around death and sex. If two people are going to be married, sex is not even mentioned - and they are going to be married for sex! We have created a great illusion around marriage, but the bare, naked fact is sex. We have created a ritual, a great ritual of marriage, just to hide the fact. Why?
Why is there a taboo about only these two things? They are deeply related. The reason for their relationship is this: first, you are born out of sex, birth is sex. And birth and death are two poles of one thing. In birth, death is hidden. That’s why man became aware of the deep relationship between sex and death. Death cannot happen without sex, just as birth cannot happen without sex.
You may wonder. There are organisms - amoebas and other bacteria - that are born not out of sex but out of simple division. Amoebas go on growing, feeding, then a certain limit comes where the body divides in two, because it becomes so big that the ameba cannot move. Up to a certain limit the body goes on growing and then it divides in two. Then the two bodies go on growing and divide into four. There is no sex, just simple division. The amoeba is known as deathless: amoebas never die. If food is supplied continuously, an amoeba never dies. There is no need to die, because there is no sex.
Unless we find something that changes the whole process of reproduction, man cannot become immortal. If we can create man without sex, he will never die. Death is part of sex just as birth is part of sex.
This can also be understood in another way. Those who have been most fascinated and obsessed with the concept of immortality, all those traditions that have tried to somehow make man immortal, have always been against sex. Yoga, particularly Hatha yoga, has tried deeply to prolong life. That is why Hatha yoga is against sex. Hatha yoga says that if you want to prolong life, don’t move into sex because sex brings death nearer.
But you are already born, and you are already involved in sex. Whether you repress or express your sex will not make much difference. You have already moved into one side. The other will follow.