Accept it, and don’t get identified. When you accept you remain above, you remain beyond. When you fight you come to the same level. Acceptance is transcendence. When you accept, you are on a hill, the body is left behind. You say, “Yes, such is the nature. Things born will have to die. And if things born have to die, they will be ill sometimes. Nothing to be worried about too much” – as if it is not happening to you, just happening in the world of the things.
This is the beauty: that when you are not fighting, you transcend. You are no longer on the same level. And this transcendence becomes a healing force. Suddenly the body starts changing. And the same happens to mental worries, tensions, anxieties, anguish. You are worried about a certain thing. What is the worry? You cannot accept the fact, that’s the worry. You would like it in some way different from how it is happening. You are worried because you have some ideas to enforce on nature.
For example, you are getting old. You are worried. You would like to remain young forever – this is the worry. You love your wife, you depend on her and she is thinking to leave, or of moving with another man, and you are worried – worried because what will happen to you? You depend on her so much, you feel so much security with her. When she is gone there will be no security. She has not only been a wife to you, she has been also a mother, a shelter; you can come and hide against the whole world. You can rely on her, she will be there. Even if the whole world is against you, she will not be against you, she is a consolation. Now she is leaving, what will happen to you? Suddenly you are in a panic, worried.
What are you saying? What are you saying by your worry? You are saying you cannot accept this happening, this should not be so. You expected it to be otherwise, just the contrary: you wanted this wife to be yours for ever and ever, and now she is leaving. But what can you do?
When love disappears what can you do? There is no way; you cannot force love, you cannot force this wife to remain with you. Yes, you can force – that’s what everybody is doing – you can force. The dead body will be there, but the living spirit will have left. Then that will be a tension in you.
Against nature, nothing can be done. Love was a flowering, now the flower has faded. The breeze has come into your house, now it has moved into another. Such is the way of things, they go on moving and changing.
The world of things is a flux, nothing is permanent there. Don’t expect! If you expect permanency in the world where everything is impermanent, you will create worry. You would like this love to be forever. Nothing can be forever in this world – all that belongs to this world is momentary. This is the nature of things, suchness, tathata.
So you know now the love has disappeared. It gives you sadness – okay, accept the sadness. You feel trembling – accept the trembling, don’t suppress it. You feel like crying, cry. Accept it! Don’t force it, don’t make a face, don’t pretend that you are not worried, because that won’t help. If you are worried you are worried; if the wife is leaving she is leaving; if the love is no longer, it is no longer. You cannot fight the facticity, you have to accept it.