People start from the loaded situations; they fail, because it is almost impossible. Either you love your wife or you hate, there is no in-between. If you love you are mad, if you hate you are mad – and both ways the words will come. It is almost impossible not to allow the words, difficult because of so much practice in continuously saying something.
One day I was at Mulla Nasruddin’s house in the morning. They were having tea when I arrived. The wife said, “Darling, in the night while you were asleep, you were saying many nasty things about me.”
Nasruddin looked at me and said, “Who says I was asleep? I cannot say things while awake, that’s why I was pretending to sleep.”
Even in sleep, or awake, when you are emotionally too much involved, it is difficult to put the mind aside. It will come in. So look at unloaded situations first. When you have the feeling that, yes, you can look at certain things without the mind coming in, then try with loaded relationships.
By and by one becomes efficient. It is just like swimming: in the beginning you feel afraid and in the beginning you cannot believe how you will survive. And you have been working with the mind so long you cannot think that without the mind you can exist for a single moment. But try!
And the more you put the mind aside, the more light will happen to you, because when there are no dreams, doors are open, windows are open, and the sky reaches to you, and the sun rises and it comes to the very heart, the light reaches you. You become more and more filled with truth as you are less and less filled with dreaming.
And if while you are awake dreaming stops, by and by when you are asleep dreaming will stop there also, because it can exist only as a continuous circle. If it is broken anywhere, by and by the whole house disappears. You take out one brick and the whole house is already on the way towards being a ruin.
If during the day you can look at things without dreaming, then in the night less and less dreams will be there, because your night is nothing but a reflection of the day, a continuity of the same. When the day is different the night is different. When you are awake, and by “awake” is meant when you are not dreaming, not that you are sitting with open eyes…
Jesus goes on saying to his disciples, “Be awake!” Were they always sleeping before him? – because he is saying every day, “Be awake!” Buddha was teaching his disciples every day, “Be awake!” Why? They were with open eyes, as alert as you are, but Buddha and Jesus go on saying, “Be awake!” They mean, “Don’t dream, just be here. Don’t go anywhere else.” In the memories, in the past, and you dream; in the future, in imagination, and you dream. Be herenow – only then is there no dream.