When you go to a master you are going to death. You will have to die, only because unless you die you cannot be reborn. When your dreams are destroyed, truth comes into existence, truth becomes revealed.
You like a person because he helps your ego. You like a girl because she says you are the perfect man.
I once overheard two young lovers. They were sitting near the sea and big waves were rolling. And the boy said, “Roll on, beautiful waves. Roll on, bigger and bigger and bigger.” And they became bigger and bigger and bigger.
And the girl said, “Wonderful! The sea obeys you.”
You will like this person. And if somebody helps your ego, you are ready to help his or her ego in the bargain.
You like a person when everything fits. It is a mutual arrangement. The moment the person starts on his own, or something does not fit, or the person is adamant, or the person has started to dominate, or the person starts to possess, or the person starts to hurt your ego…
And that is going to happen, because that person likes you not because your ego is strengthened – that person likes you because her or his ego is strengthened. He likes you because of his own self, ego, and you like because your self is strengthened. Your purposes are different. So this type of arrangement cannot go on forever. And your purposes are not only different, they are antagonistic, because only one can be the master and both are trying to be the master.
In the beginning they will be very sweet because the territory is unknown. By and by, as things settle, they will become more and more adamant, possessive, dominating, more and more aggressive to the other. And then you start disliking. You hate a person who in any way tries to bring your superiority down. You love a person who makes you superior.
Ego continuously suffers from an inferiority complex. Because of this a man would like to love this woman, that woman, thousands of women. He may become a Don Juan, because every time the woman helps only in the beginning. It is a strategy, a feminine strategy. Only in the beginning, the woman helps you. By the time she feels now you cannot go away, you are caught, she starts dominating you.
You would like to conquer many women, but just in the beginning. You see, all love affairs are beautiful in the beginning. It is very difficult, rare, to find a love affair beautiful in the end. And if you can find something, then you know this affair has really been a love affair.