Ask me questions without any fear, because I have never condemned anybody. My whole love and respect is for the person who accepts himself totally, as he is. He has courage. He has courage to face the whole pressure of the society which is bent upon splitting him into divisions – into good and bad, into saint and sinner. He is really a brave, courageous being who stands against the whole history of man, of morality, and declares to the skies his reality, whatever it is.

And at least with the master, the disciple has to be absolutely clean and clear so the master can start working with your reality, not with your phoniness – because everything done with your phoniness is a sheer wastage.

Only the real you is capable of growing, of coming to a flowering.

Osho,
I always want a total change in my life because I feel so discontented, so limited, so frustrated.
When I heard you saying, “Come closer,” it touched my heart deeply. I saw that I am always managing my life reasonably and out of my mind, that I live a life full of lies and go on postponing being really alive.
I decided to stay here with you longer than I intended to, in spite of all reasons and problems that may come. But I don’t feel at ease, and I don’t know if it is not again something coming from my mind.
Will you please say something about the miracle of transformation and how to live more out of the heart?

The first thing to remember is, never ask for the impossible. Begin slowly, bit by bit, step by step.

Just by walking step by step, you can cover ten thousand miles easily. But if you start thinking from the very beginning that “I want to cross ten thousand miles,” your legs may start wavering, your heart may start feeling tremendously afraid.

Your mind will say, “You are asking too much; it is unreasonable.” You are a small human being. Ten thousand miles…just walking one step each time – because nobody can walk two steps at one time. Ten thousand miles looks too big. Make small goals.

You are asking for total change. You don’t see the impossibility of it at this point. At some other point it will not be impossible, but at this point it will be impossible to ask for a total change, because there will be so many implications in it.

Why not go a little slowly? Why not take one part of your being and clean it? Put your total energy into cleaning one part of your being, then move to the second part. And of course, finally you will be able to have a total change.

But mind is very cunning: whatever it wants to avoid, from the very beginning it creates such a situation – it asks for the impossible. So you remain where you are, more frustrated, more in despair because the total change is not happening. The mind has given you a goal and deceived you. Total change certainly is the goal, but don’t try to have it in a single step. Go in a more human way, changing small parts.