You cannot make the other disappear, you can only make yourself disappear. If you disappear there is no other; when the I is dropped there is no thou. That’s the only way.
But we try, we try just the opposite – we try to kill the “you”. The you cannot be killed, the you cannot be possessed, dominated. The you will remain a rebellion, because the you is in an effort to kill you. You are both fighting for the same ego – he for his, you for yours.
The whole politics of the world is how to kill the you so that only I is left and everything is at peace – because when there is nobody else, you alone are there, everything will be at peace. But this has never happened and will never happen. How can you kill the other? How can you destroy the other? The other is vast, the whole universe is the other.
Religion works through a different dimension: it tries to drop the I. And once the I is dropped there is no other, the other disappears. That’s why you cling to your complaints and grudges – because they help the I to be there. If the shoe pinches, then the I can exist more easily. If the shoe is not pinching, the foot is forgotten; then the I disappears.
People cling to their diseases, they cling to their complaints, they cling to all that pinches. And they go on saying, “These are wounds and we would like them to be healed.” But deep down they go on making the wounds, because if all the wounds are healed they will not be there.
Just watch people: they cling to their illness. They talk about it as if it is something worth talking about. People talk about illness, about their negative moods, more than about anything else. Listen to them, and you will see that they are enjoying talking about it.
Every evening I have to listen. For many years I have been listening. Look at their faces – they are enjoying it! They are martyrs; their illness, their anger, their hatred, their this problem and that, their greed, ambition. And just see, the whole thing is simply crazy – because they are asking to get rid of those things, but look at their faces, they are enjoying it. And if they are really gone, what will they enjoy then? If all their illnesses disappear and they are completely whole and healthy, there will be nothing for them to talk about!
People go to psychiatrists and then they go on talking about it, that they have visited this psychiatrist and that, they have been to this master and that. Really, they enjoy saying, “All, everybody, has failed with me. I am still the same, nobody has been able to change me.” They enjoy this, as if they are succeeding because they are proving every psychiatrist a failure. All “pathies” have become failures.