Of course he comes into many conflicts with others. He comes into many contradictions within himself, because one feeling helps him to do one thing, then suddenly he starts feeling another feeling. A child never can complete anything. By the time he can complete it his feeling has changed. He starts many things but never comes to any conclusion. A child remains inconclusive. He enjoys – but his enjoyment is not creative, cannot be creative. He delights – but life cannot be lived only through delight. You cannot remain a child forever. You will have to learn many things, because you are not alone here.
If you were alone then there would be no question – you could have remained a child forever. But the society is there, millions of people are there; you have to follow many rules, you have to follow many values. Otherwise there will be so much conflict that life would become impossible. The child has to be disciplined – and that’s where the parent comes in.
The parental voice in you is the voice of the society, culture, civilization; the voice that makes you capable of living in a world where you are not alone, where there are many individuals with conflicting ambitions, where there is much struggle for survival, where there is much conflict. You have to pave your path, and you have to move very cautiously.
The parental voice is that of caution. It makes you civilized. The child is wild, the parental voice helps you to become civilized. The word civil is good. It means one who has become capable of living in a city; who has become capable of being a member of a group, of a society.
The child is very dictatorial. The child thinks he is the center of the world. The parent has to teach you that you are not the center of the world – everybody thinks that way. He has to make you more and more alert that there are many people in the world, you are not alone. You have to consider them if you want yourself to be considered by them. Otherwise you will be crushed. It is a sheer question of survival, of policy, of politics.
The parental voice gives you commandments – what to do, what not to do. The feeling simply goes blind. The parent makes you cautious. It is needed.
And then there is the third voice within you, the third layer, when you have become adult and you are no more controlled by your parents; your own reason has come of age, you can think on your own.
The child consists of felt concepts; the parent consists of taught concepts, and the adult consists of thought concepts. And these three layers are continuously in fight. The child says one thing, the parent says just the opposite, and the reason may say something totally different.
You see beautiful food. The child says to eat as much as you want. The parental voice says that many things have to be considered – whether you are really feeling hungry, or just the smell of the food, the taste of the food is the only appeal. Is this food really nutritious? Is it going to nourish your body or can it become harmful to you? Wait, listen, don’t rush. And then there is the rational mind, the adult mind, which may say something else, totally different.