The freedom of woman from man’s slavery will also be freedom for man to experience love. So I call the women’s liberation movement not only women’s liberation movement, it is also the men’s liberation movement: both will be liberated. The slavery is binding them both, and there is continuous struggle. The woman has found her own strategies of how to harass the husband, of how to nag him, of how to put him down; and the man has his own strategy. And between these two fighting camps we have been hoping that love is happening. Centuries have passed – love has not happened, or only once in a while. This is the situation of ordinary love, which is only a name, not a reality.
If you ask my vision of love – it is no more a question of dialectics, opposition. Men and women are different, and complementary. Man alone is half; so is woman. Only together, in a deep feeling of oneness, do they feel for the first time totality, perfection. But to attain to this perfection you have to go beyond the love-hate duality.
And you are capable of going beyond the duality. Right now they go on hand in hand in your life: you love the same person you hate. So in the morning it is hate, in the evening it is love – and it is a very confusing thing. You don’t even understand whether you love the person or you hate the person, because you do both at different times.
But this is how the mind functions: it functions through contradictions. Evolution functions also through oppositions, but those oppositions in existence are not contradictions, they are complementaries. But in the mind, contradictions are contradictions and mind cannot conceive of anything that is non-contradictory, that does not have its opposite hiding just behind.
And we have been told, taught, programmed in such a way that even a thing like love has to be a mind thing. It is basically of the heart, but our whole society has tried to bypass the heart, because the heart is not logical, is not rational. And our minds have been trained through education that anything illogical is wrong, anything irrational is wrong; only a logical thing is right. And in our educational programming there is no place for the heart; it is just mind. The heart has almost been removed from our existence, silenced. It has never been given a chance to grow, to have its potential become actual. So mind is dominating….
And mind is good when money is concerned; mind is good when war is concerned; mind is good when ambitions are concerned – but mind is absolutely useless when love is concerned. Money, war, desires, ambitions – you cannot put love in the same category.
Love has a separate source in your being, where there is no contradiction.
An authentic education will not only teach your mind, because mind can give you a good livelihood but not a good life. The heart cannot give you a good livelihood, but it can give you a good life. And there is no reason to choose between the two. Use the mind for what it is made for, and use the heart for what it is made for.
Heart is the transcendence of duality.
Heart knows no jealousy – that is a mind product. Heart is so full of love that it can love without any fear of being exhausted. We can fill the whole world with love. But we are almost crippled. The heart has been simply bypassed in our growth; it does not play any role.