But for a man who really loves, it was not a sane society – because love changes; nothing can be done about it. Just as we accept every other change in the world…. Seasons change – what can you do about it? Summer comes, rains come, winter comes – what can you do about it? Day changes into night, youth changes into old age…the whole existence is changing.
Against this changing world we created a fake society which was stable. It was against existence.
In existence everything is momentary, and we were trying to create something permanent. To the mediocre it brought great happiness, because once something is settled it is settled forever. But to those who are not just looking for a wife to take care of their children, for a wife who is going to be a factory for producing children, for a wife who will take care of the household affairs, it was not very sane. Those people suffered.
Those who are looking for a woman as a human being, those who are looking for love, they have to accept that love can change. It is a reality; it is not an artifact made by society.
It is a flower that blossoms in the morning, and by the evening it is gone. It is not something plastic.
Those who are looking for the real flower and its fragrance and its aliveness have to accept that change is the law of life – the only law.
It means that the new changing society gives opportunity to authentic, sincere, intelligent people. They can live together, if they feel like living together, or they can separate.
It does not create insanity; it is really the sanest thing to do. If the love disappears, then what is the point of living together? Why pretend? Why go on saying false things to each other? – “I love you.”
Dale Carnegie suggests in his book, How To Win Friends and Influence People, that every husband at least three times a day should say to his wife, “I love you.” Whether you feel it or not is not the point; it has to be repeated mechanically. Whenever you have a chance to repeat it, repeat it.
But no intelligent person can do that.
All these kinds of advisers are making man phony. And in America there are thousands of books of this type which make man phony.
I have heard that Henry Ford was in a bookstore looking through the new publications, and Napoleon Hill…he writes well, impressively, but all phony stuff. In his book Think and Grow Rich – a best seller – he proposes that if you visualize that you are rich, you will be rich. Your visualization will sooner or later become a reality. You remain poor because you cannot visualize. So learn how to think and grow rich, and nothing else has to be done. You just have to close your eyes and think persistently, visualizing a Cadillac, and one day suddenly it appears on your porch.
His book had just come out of the press, and he was selling them there with his signature. He was very happy that Henry Ford was there. So he said, “I would like to present one of my books to you.”