Now that is the real problem. That is the scandal. That’s what is heavy for the parent.
The ritualistic mind is always like that. It goes on missing the real problem. It never faces a real problem, it creates an unreal problem because it is easy to solve an unreal problem – remember it. It gives you a good feeling that you have solved it.
That’s why people love to solve puzzles, crossword puzzles and things like that. Solving a crossword puzzle gives you a feeling that you are solving something. It is stupid. Nothing is solved by solving a crossword puzzle. Your life remains as unsolved and as complicated and confused as ever, but it gives you a feeling that at least you have been able to solve something. Otherwise, there is no need. Life is such a great puzzle, if you want to solve it, solve it. Why create small, tiny, petty troubles and puzzles and then solve them? They give you a good feeling. They make you avoid life itself. Life is too big and dangerous – solving a crossword puzzle has no danger in it. If you solve it, good; if you don’t solve it, nothing is wrong in it.
People go on watching other people live. They go to a movie to see other people love; they go to see a dance, other people dancing; they go to see wrestling, other people wrestling. People have become spectators. It gives them a false feeling, as if they are part of the dance or part of the love affair that is going on. And they go on just watching; spectators, dead and dull. Their life is nil. And if you look into their life you will find them repeating the same motions again and again.
I have heard:
Rabbi Greenberg died and went to heaven. He saw only three people there reading by a dim light. One of them was reading Playboy, another Gallery and the other Genesis.
Then he decided to see what hell was like. He got to the Devil’s domain and it turned out to be a big night club with every kind of music being played. There was an eight-piece Dixieland band, a thirty-piece swing band, and all the people were dancing.
Rabbi Greenberg went back into heaven and asked for an audience with God. “I don’t understand it, Lord,” he said. “There are only three people here in heaven and they are all reading. Down in hell everybody is dancing and having a good time. Why can’t we have that in heaven?”
The Lord said, “I cannot hire a band for just three people.”