So try this exercise I am talking about – the exercise in headlessness – and suddenly you will feel a strange thing: it will be as if for the first time you are at the heart. Walk headlessly. Sit down to meditate, close your eyes, and simply feel that there is no head. Feel, “My head has disappeared.” In the beginning it will be just “as if,” but by and by you will feel that the head has really disappeared. And when you feel that your head has disappeared, your center will fall down to the heart – immediately. You will be looking at the world through the heart and not through the head.
When for the first time Westerners reached Japan, they couldn’t believe that Japanese had traditionally believed for centuries that they think through the belly. If you ask a Japanese child – if he is not educated in Western ways – “Where is your thinking?” he will point to his belly.
Centuries and centuries have passed, and Japan has been living without the head. It is just a concept. If I ask you, “Where is your thinking going on?” you will point toward the head, but a Japanese will point to the belly, not to the head. And one of the reasons why the Japanese mind is more calm, quiet and collected, is this.
Now this concept has been disturbed because the West has spread over everything. Now there exists no East. Only in some individuals here and there, who are like islands, does the East exist. Otherwise the East has disappeared; now the whole world is Western.
Try headlessness. Meditate standing before your mirror in the bathroom. Look deep into your eyes and feel that you are looking from the heart. By and by the heart center will begin to function. And when the heart functions, it changes your total personality, the total structure, the whole pattern, because the heart has its own way.
So the first thing: try headlessness. Secondly, be more loving, because love cannot function through the head. Be more loving! That is why when someone is in love, he loses his head. People say that he has gone mad. If you are not mad and in love, then you are not in love really. The head must be lost. If the head is there, unaffected, functioning ordinarily, then love is not possible, because for love you need the heart to function – not the head. It is a function of the heart.
It happens that when a very rational person falls in love, he becomes stupid. He himself feels what stupidity he is doing, what silliness. What is he doing? Then he makes two parts of his life. He creates a division. The heart becomes a silent, intimate affair. When he moves out of his house, he moves out of his heart. He lives in the world with the head, and only comes down to the heart when he is loving. But it is very difficult, and ordinarily it never happens.
I was staying in Calcutta at a friend’s house, and the friend was a justice of the High Court. His wife told me, “I have only one problem to tell you. Can you help me?”
So I said, “What is the problem?”
She said, “My husband is your friend. He loves you and respects you, so if you say something to him it may be helpful.”