If love has happened, in that moment it becomes absolutely clear that there is no division. Then they start functioning in a harmony. And not that the harmony has to be imposed from the outside. No, it comes of its own accord, with no effort, with no cultivation, with no conditioning. It simply happens. As trees grow upwards…just like that. As birds can fly…just like that. As flowers can bloom…just like that. It is natural.
The internal and the external are in absolute harmony. There is no division. But man has created the division and has created much anxiety about it. Drop the division, and go beyond anxiety.
Dropping dualities one becomes religious. Don’t think yourself separate from the world. That’s why Zen people say: The world is Nirvana. There is no other enlightenment.
That’s why the other day I was talking about Zorba the Buddha. Zorba is extrovert, Buddha is introvert. Zorba has no idea who he is, Buddha has renounced the world, he only thinks about who he is. His whole consciousness moves inward. Zorba is interested in women and wine and dance and song; his whole energy moves outward.
To me, the perfect master will be one who has no divisions. He flows in all the directions – internal, external – because there is no problem at all. It is all one flow. To be in this one flow is to know God.
The second question:
I have fallen in love with a friend’s wife who is in love with my wife – is it not strange?
It is. This whole life is strange. Things happen here, strange things. I can understand your problem. No husband can ever believe that anybody can fall in love with his wife – although he can fall in love with somebody else’s wife and there is no problem. But somebody falling in love with his wife? and he is so fed up with the woman? and he cannot see any beauty in her? and all ugliness has surfaced?
A man came home and saw his partner making love to his wife. The partner was very much afraid: “Now there is going to be trouble.” And the man came and tapped on his shoulder and said, “Come with me to the other room. I would like to have a word with you.”
And the partner was trembling: “Now there is going to be danger – maybe some fight or something.” And the man took him into the other room and closed the doors and said, “Tell me one thing: I have to, but why you? What has happened to you? Have you gone crazy or something?”
I can understand your problem: somebody falling in love with your wife? Let me tell you one anecdote: