When the yogi is firmly established in nonviolence,
there is an abandonment of enmity by those who are in his presence.
Many things are implied. First, in India we have never used the word love. We always use “nonviolence” – ahimsa pratishthayam. Jesus uses “love”; Mahavira, Patanjali, Buddha, they never use “love” – they use “nonviolence.” Why? Love seems to be a better word, more positive, more poetic. Nonviolence looks like an ugly word, negative. But there is something to it. When you say “love,” you have moved in a subtle aggression. When I say, “I love you,” I have moved from my center towards you. The aggression is beautiful, but it is aggression. Patanjali says “nonviolence.” It is a negative state, a passive state: I only say, “I won’t hurt you,” that’s all.
Love says, “I will make you happy” – which is impossible. Who can make anybody happy? Love promises. All promises are false. How can you make anybody happy? If everybody is responsible for his own self, how is it possible even to think that you can make somebody be happy? When I say, “I love you,” I am creating so many promises, I am showing you so many beautiful gardens…I am calling you towards dreams. No, Patanjali will not use the word, because deep down I am saying, “I will make you happy. Come near me; come close to me. I am ready to make you happy” – which is impossible. Nobody can make anybody happy. At the most I can say, “I will not hurt you.” That is for me, not to hurt, but how can I say, “I will make you happy”?
That’s why all love leads to frustration. Lovers promise each other – knowingly, unknowingly – beautiful roses, paradise; and each one thinking about the promise – and then it is never fulfilled. Nobody can make you happy – except yourself. If you fall in love: the man is thinking the woman is going to give him a beautiful life, an enchanted, a magical world; and the woman is also thinking that the man is going to lead her towards the last paradise. Nobody can lead anybody. That’s why lovers feel frustrated: the promise was false. Not that they were deceiving each other, they were deceived themselves. Not that they were deliberately deceiving each other, they didn’t know. They were not aware what they were saying.