That sharing of your joy is love; hence one thing has to be remembered: you cannot love unless you have attained to joy. Millions of people go on trying: they want to love and they don’t know anything about what joy is. Then their love is hollow, empty, meaningless; their love brings despair, misery, anguish, it creates hell. Unless you have joy you can’t be in love. You have nothing to give, you are a beggar yourself. First you need to be a king, and your joy will make you a king.
When you are radiating joy you can love. Buddha says: “When you have become the shining one, when your hidden secrets are no longer secrets but are flowering in the wind, in the rain, in the sun; when your imprisoned splendor is released, when your mystery has become an open phenomenon, when it is vibrating around you, pulsating around you, when it is in your breath, in your heartbeat, then you can love.” Then you touch dust and the dust is transformed into the divine. Then whatsoever you touch becomes gold. Ordinary pebbles in your hand will be transmuted into diamonds, emeralds; ordinary people touched by you will not be ordinary anymore.
A man who has attained to joy becomes a source of great transformation for many people. His flame has been lit, now he can help others. The unlit flames coming closer to the one who has become afire with joy, can also become lit.
That’s what satsang is, that’s what communion with a master is: coming closer to his fire, coming closer to his splendor, coming closer to his glory, coming closer to what has happened to him. And just by coming closer the flame jumps into you and you are never the same again.
Love is possible only when your flame is lit; otherwise you are a dark continent. And you are pretending to give light to others? Love is light, hate is darkness. You are dark within and trying to give light to others? You will only succeed in giving them more darkness, and they are already in darkness. You will multiply their darkness; you will make them more miserable. Don’t try to do that, because it is impossible, it is not according to the nature of things. It can’t happen. You can hope, but all your hope is in vain. First be filled with joy.
Live in joy, in love, even among those who hate. And then it is not a question of what others do to you. Then one can love even those who hate him. Then one can live in love and joy even amongst enemies.
A disciple of Buddha became enlightened, and Buddha said to him, “Now that you have entered the temple, go and spread the message, because there are many who need a little help, there are many who are drowning in the river of sorrow. Now that you have learned how to swim, help others. Now you have the boat, you can take them to the other shore. Remember the way I helped you; now go and help others.”