But if you are rejoicing, enjoying, then nobody comes close to you because your rejoicing makes them jealous. They are not rejoicing, and your rejoicing does not help their ego. You are higher and they are lower. When you are suffering, you are lower, they are higher.
In India I have one very rich friend. He is also a politician and has been education minister. Now his only desire is to become the prime minister. He used to come to me and ask, “I have helped everybody who has come to me – friend or stranger. I have helped the poor, I have opened schools and hospitals, I have helped all my relatives and made them rich, opened factories, shops, given them presents so none of my relatives remains poor – even faraway relatives. But nobody has any sympathy for me.”
I said, “You don’t understand the workings of sympathy. They all hate you. I know a few of your relatives and friends whom you have financially supported. They all hate you for the simple reason that by your support you have put them down. You don’t accept even a flower from anybody. You are so egoistic – and of course you are not in any need, and however rich your relatives have become, they are not in any way rich compared to you. But even a small gift from them on your birthday you return.”
He said, “That has been my principle my whole life, never to receive any present.”
I said, “Then you should not be worried about their antipathy towards you. If you want their sympathy, it is not through your financial help. If you can take some small thing from them they will feel happy and higher: they have also done something for you. Right now you are the doer and they are only poor receivers.”
He said, “Perhaps that is the reason they never come to see me, they never rejoice at meeting me. They all look sore whenever I meet them, and I can see in their eyes some kind of anger…and I have simply helped them.”
I said, “You have not helped them, you have been simply emphasizing your ego – and nobody can love your ego. Everybody is going to hate your ego. Allow them to do small things for you. They cannot do big things, because you are very rich, but even by doing small things they will feel they can also do something for you.”
But he said, “That is impossible. I cannot let anyone be in a higher position than me, that they are the giver and I am the receiver. No.”
Then I said, “You have chosen your suffering, your isolated state where nobody is a friend to you. You have chosen it.”
If we study deeply the workings of man’s mind, the people who are rich in Switzerland or anywhere else enjoy their suffering because that suffering brings sympathy from people – which they cannot purchase with their money. Although sympathy is not love but a very poor substitute, something is better than nothing.
These people have never been loved by anyone. Those who have loved them have loved their money; those who have been friends with them have been friends because of their money.