Only through the hara does fear disappear; only through the hara do you live for the first time authentically, sincerely, with no fear. That life needs to be lived, that life can be lived only if you don’t divide existence into two – body/mind, matter/soul, God/existence. If you divide, you will remain in the intellect. Drop all divisions, live as one, all the three bodies have to be lived as one, they are three aspects of your being – the physical body, the bliss body and the buddha body. I am not against any – I am not saying choose the buddha body against the physical body. If you choose the buddha body against the physical body, your buddhahood will miss something, will lack something. It will not be perfect; it will not be the total flowering.
When you don’t reject anything, when your acceptance is complete, then you bloom. Then you bloom into a thousand-petaled lotus, sahasrar.
The second question:
Since falling in love, even though having little to do with him, it seems entirely my own journey. Feeling nourished and much power in my being.
Love is nourishment, love is exactly like food to the soul. Food is nourishment for the body, love is nourishment for the soul. Without food you will die physically, without love you will die spiritually – in fact you will not even be born. The body needs food; the soul needs love.
Jesus is right when he says, “Man cannot live by bread alone” because bread is bread only for the body. You will have to seek and search something which nourishes your soul; so be always in love. And remember one thing: lovers don’t matter, love matters. If one lover disappears from your life don’t become sour and bitter. If one lover has moved away from you don’t go on clinging to the past and the memory and the nostalgia of it. That is sacrilegious, that is insulting to love. The lover is good, but the lover is good because of love. You need not sacrifice love for the lover. Lovers come and go, love remains.
When one lover has gone out of your life, don’t become poisoned by it, don’t start closing your heart. You have to live, you have to still be in love. One should always be in love – with whom is immaterial – if love goes on flowing, you will be nourished in your soul.
But there are people who make this condition too; they become too attached to the lover. It is as if a flute player has become too attached to his flute and cannot play on another flute. And if this flute is stolen, is broken, now he will never sing. Now he will never sing – because that flute is no more with him, how can he sing? – it will be a betrayal to that flute. This is foolish but this is how humanity has been taught. If that flute is gone, search and seek for another flute, because your devotion should be towards the song, not towards the flute; the flute is just a vehicle, a passage.
So are all lovers. If one love is no more there, start searching, exploring for another. Remain always in love, and your soul will grow, will be nourished.