So very clever people miss life, they never take the risk. Afraid of falling, they never walk; afraid of drowning, they never swim; afraid of rejection, they never move in love; afraid of failure, they never make any effort to succeed in anything. Their life is not life at all. They are dead before their death. They die many times before they really die. Their whole life is nothing but a gradual death.
Live, and live intensely, and don’t take it as a personal offense if somebody cannot love you – there is no necessity. You were ready, you were available. If the other is not willing, that is for him to decide. Don’t make it a wound, it is not. It simply says that you two don’t fit, that’s all – it doesn’t say anything about you or about the other. Don’t say that the other is wrong and don’t think that it is because you are wrong that you are not accepted. It is just you could not fit.
And it is good that the other did not deceive you, that he said, “Sorry, I don’t feel any love for you.” At least he was sincere and authentic. Because if he had said a formal yes, then your whole life would have been a mess. Be true. When you love, say it, and when you don’t, say that too. Be true and sincere.
And there are so many beautiful people in the world, why remain with yourself? Walk a few steps with somebody. Feel that rhythm also. That rhythm will satisfy you and the urge will disappear. And when the urge disappears, your meditation will be the first in the hierarchy. Meditation can be the first in the hierarchy only if you have not been denying yourself that which is natural.
A person who has been fasting cannot meditate because whenever he meditates he thinks about food, whenever he closes his eyes he visualizes food. A man who is denying love cannot meditate; whenever he meditates, immediately sexuality surrounds him.
Fulfill all natural needs, nothing is wrong in them. What is wrong in food, in sex? Nothing is wrong. Fulfill them. Be so natural that when you meditate there is no other thing waiting for your attention. If you fulfill your natural needs you will see that your dreams will disappear. In the night you will not dream because there is nothing to dream about. Fast, then you will dream about food; force celibacy on yourself, then you will dream about sex. If you are moving naturally, if you have found a tune between you and nature… That’s what I call dharma, that’s what I call the ultimate law of life. Find yourself almost always in rhythm. Sometimes even if you go out of step come back again; remember and fall into line again. Remain with nature and you will reach to the goal; remain with nature and you will find godliness. You can even forget about God, then too you will find him – if you remain true to nature. Because when lower needs are fulfilled, higher needs arise; when higher needs are fulfilled, ultimate needs arise. This is the natural economy of life.