Every child would be angry if he understood what the poor parents have been doing to him unknowingly, unconsciously. All their efforts were for the best for the child. Their intentions are good but their consciousness is nil. And good intentions in the hands of unconscious people are dangerous. They cannot bring about the result they are intending. They may create just the opposite of it.

Every parent is trying to bring a beautiful child into the world, but looking at the world it seems it is an orphanage, there have been no parents at all. In fact if it were an orphanage, it would have been far better, because at least you would have been yourself – no parents to interfere with you.

So the anger is natural, but useless. It does not help your parents to be angry and it harms you to be angry.

Gautam Buddha is reported to have said a very strange statement: that in anger you punish yourself for somebody else’s fault. It looks very strange when for the first time you come across the statement that in anger you punish yourself for somebody else’s fault.

Now your parents have done something twenty years back, thirty years back, and you are angry now. Your anger is not going to help anyone now; it is simply going to create more wounds in you. And being near me, close to me…where I am trying to explain to you the whole mechanism of how children are being brought up, you should become more understanding that whatever has happened was going to happen. Your parents were conditioned by their parents. You cannot find who was really responsible to begin with. It has been passed from generation to generation.

And your parents are doing exactly what has been done to them. They have been victims. You will feel compassion for them and you will feel joyous that you are not going to repeat the same thing in your life. If you decide to have children you are going to break the vicious circle, you are going to jump out of the line that goes back to the very beginnings and continues up to you, so that you can become the dead end. You will not repeat that with your children or any other person’s children.

You should feel fortunate that you have a master with you to explain what has been happening between the generations – the complex upbringing, good intentions, bad results, everybody trying to do the best and the world goes on becoming worse and worse.

Your parents were not so fortunate as to have a master – and you are being angry at them. You should feel kind, compassionate, loving. Whatever they did was unconscious. They would not have been able to do otherwise. All that they knew they have tried upon you. They were miserable; they have created another miserable human being in the world.

They had no clarity about why they are miserable. You have the opportunity to understand why one becomes miserable. And once you understand how misery is created, you can avoid creating the same causes in somebody else.