And that is how one becomes self-predictable. You go on fulfilling your own prophecies. The next moment you say, “Yes, I was saying from the very beginning that this relationship was not going to last. Now it is proven.” Then you feel very good in a way; you feel you have been very clever and wise. In fact you have been foolish, because it is not that you predicted anything. You forced this event to happen because you wasted the time that was given to you, the opportunity. So love him and forget about the future. Just drop the whole nonsense of thinking about it.
If you can love, love. If you cannot love, forget this man, find somebody else – but don’t waste time. The question is not of this lover or that lover – the question is of love. Love fulfills, people are just excuses. But the whole thing depends on you, because whatsoever you are doing with this man, you will go on doing with another if you change lovers. So why not try with him? He is as perfect a man as you can find; a beautiful person with much understanding, and mature in many ways.
So love him and make him so happy that the happiness itself creates the possibility of him staying. If you make a person happy why should he leave you? But if you make him unhappy then why shouldn’t he leave you? If you make him unhappy then I will help him to leave you. But if you make him happy nobody can help him to leave you Then there is no point; he will fight the whole world for you
So become more happy. Use the time that one has, and there is no need to think about the future. The present is enough. From this very moment, try to live this moment. If he leaves, that’s okay. I will find a better man – forget him. Use this moment not in worrying, but in living. Small things can become so beautiful. A little caring, a little sharing – that’s all life is.
So for one month this is going to be your meditation: live the moment, and bring yourself again and again to the present. Whenever you escape into the future or the past, catch hold, bring yourself back. And for one month, with no worry, not seeking security – just live. And everything will be okay. Everything is always okay.
With people I am not very close to, it is easy to make conversation. But with people I am closer to, there is nothing to say. And I don’t feel very comfortable with it. It is as though something is missing.
No, nothing is missing, nothing at all. It is just that you are growing, and for the first time you are feeling close to people.
You have never felt that closeness. You have always remained just casually related. When you are formally related to someone you can go on chattering about a thousand and one nonsensical things, because nothing matters – it is just a pastime.