It is your soul which reaches out to all around you and spreads itself over everything you come into contact with. So whatever you see, whatever you find, is nothing but an extension of your own interiority. Moreover, unless this is the case, there can be no possibility of transformation in life. Because it is only in transforming oneself that one transforms the whole world.
We can understand it like this too: that we don’t all live in the same world. It seems to us that we do, but our psychological worlds are quite different. There are as many different worlds present here as there are people. One of you will be unhappy, another happy, one may be peaceful and another may be in turmoil – so you cannot all be part of the same world.
To one who is sitting peacefully here, the atmosphere around him will seem completely peaceful. Each and every breeze, each and every star, the leaves, the flowers, every tiny part of the trees, will seem to impart peace to him. Even a small movement of the wind will be a breath of peace for him. He will be filled with life. The same things will be happening around a person who is sitting next to him with a sad and a long face, but for him they have a different meaning.
The world is not made up of things, it is the interpretation you give that makes your world. How we interpret it, how we look on it – that is how your world is created. And we all have different ways of looking at things. Each and every person has a different philosophy. We all live in different worlds. Every person lives in his own psychological world, and that is the reason we clash with each other – our worlds are so different.
Two people get married, but they can never come to any sort of harmony because their worlds, that is the worlds created by their minds, are poles apart. That is why they are always at loggerheads with one other. The husband says one thing, the wife understands something totally different, something which her husband never said at all. He asserts a hundred times that this is not what he meant at all, but his wife just won’t agree that he never meant it: “This was exactly what you meant!” And neither does the husband understand what the wife says. Communication seems to be impossible. You say something and it is taken to mean something else. Someone says something and you extract your meaning out of it. The other person may beat his head a thousand times trying to convince you that this was not the motive behind what he said, but you will never be convinced. You will reply that this was his motive but now he is changing things. Ways of looking at things….
No matter how close we come to each other, our worlds are quite different, and there is a constant struggle between them. As long as you do not understand that everyone is living in the world of his own mind, as long as you do not become so aware that you put yourself in his place and begin to see his way, the struggle will continue. Then, even a friendship is a type of enmity; a relationship is also a type of a nuisance. The family is also a kind of struggle, because so many worlds are born within it and there are struggles between them.