Watch. Whenever you repeat a thing too many times, go deep within yourself. You must be carrying it. But you cannot falsify it, that is the problem. Your eyes will show that it is hidden behind.
Have you watched? You go to somebody’s house and he welcomes you, but there is no welcome in his presence. He says, “I am very happy to see you, glad to see you.” But you don’t see any gladness anywhere; in fact, he looks a little anxious, worried, apprehensive. He looks at you as if trouble has come to his home. Have you watched people saying to you “take any seat,” and simultaneously showing you a certain seat to take? They say “take any seat,” but they show you, in a subtle gesture, “take this seat.” They go on contradicting themselves.
Parents go on telling their children, “Be yourself,” and at the same time they go on teaching how one should be. “Be independent” – and at the same time they go on forcing the child to be obedient. They have their own idea about how the child should be and when they say, “Be yourself,” they mean, “Be the way we want you to be.” They don’t mean, “Be yourself.”
Continuously something else is there present and you cannot really falsify it. But man has become cunning about that also. We don’t look into each other’s eyes because eyes can show the truth, so it is thought to be part of etiquette to avoid eyes. Don’t look into somebody’s eyes too much or you will be thought a little uncultured – transgressing, trespassing. It is very difficult to falsify the eyes. You can falsify the tongue very easily, because the tongue, the language, is a social byproduct. But eyes belong to your being. You say something, but your eyes continually show something else, hence in all the societies of the world people avoid each other’s eyes. They don’t encounter – because that will be looking into the truth.
But you can watch these contradictions in yourself and it will be a great help. Because unless your in is just like your out and your out is just like your in, you can never be at rest.
In Tibet, in Egypt, they say, “As above, so below.” Zen says, “As within, so without.”
Unless your within becomes as your without you can never be at rest because your periphery will continuously be in conflict with your center. The problem is that the periphery cannot win. Ultimately only the center can win. But the periphery can delay, postpone; the periphery can waste time and life and energy. If you go on living on the periphery and just go on pretending, not really living, you will have many faces but you will not have your original face.
I have heard.