Let it come…ignore it. That is the key to getting rid of it: ignore it. Let it come, don’t take any note of it; don’t nourish it by giving it attention. And once the mind comes to know that you have become absolutely inattentive towards it, slowly, slowly, and chunk by chunk, it starts disappearing.
The greatest moment in life comes when the mind has gone forever. This state of mindlessness brings you to your inner being. Mind was keeping you engaged and not allowing you to enter into your interiority. It is always afraid that the moment you go deeper into yourself it will become useless.
I used to stay in Calcutta in the house of the chief justice of the Calcutta high court. His wife told me two things. She said, “I cannot say these things to anybody. But my husband loves you so much, and respects you so much, that perhaps he may listen to you.”
I said, “You need not feel embarrassed; you can simply say whatever is the case.”
She said, “The problem with him is that even in bed with me, he remains the chief justice. It is good he should be chief justice in the court, but the children are afraid. The moment his car enters the gate, a sadness falls over the house. The children – who were just laughing and enjoying and dancing – stop; I myself become fearful, because he treats everybody as if they are criminals. He cannot forget that he is the chief justice. So please do something, because our whole family is tortured by his being the chief justice.”
I talked to the man. At first he felt very much offended that his wife should say this to me, but I said, “Don’t feel offended, because she knows you love me, and you will be able to listen to me. Your being chief justice has become a disease for the whole family. The children cannot laugh, nobody can talk, people start whispering; even your wife has said that in bed, while making love, she is not making love to her husband – she is making love to the chief justice of Calcutta high court!”
He was very shocked. He told the chauffeur to inform the court that he was not coming in that day. He went with me to a garden, sat there silently and finally said, “You are right. I am not enjoying it either, because I never see my wife happy, I never see my children playing. The moment I enter the house it seems as if death has entered; everything suddenly becomes sad. And I know this is not the truth, because the neighbors have told me the moment I go out of the house, it is full of joy. The children are dancing, singing, playing; my wife is a good singer and poet – she plays many musical instruments – but in front of me she becomes almost a corpse. And I was puzzled: I am not doing anything to anybody, so what is the problem? I am sorry that I felt offended, but you have shown me the problem.”
I said, “Come with me to your home. Apologize to everybody – the servants, the chauffeur, the gardener, the children, your wife, your parents – individually. Tell them that from today you will be chief justice only in your high court, and you will leave your chief justice-hood in the court when you come back home.”