Respect the other person so much that the relationship becomes an end in itself. Forget about technique. If you love each other, just allow love to possess you both, and love will show you many ways. Just be ready to cooperate with it, that’s all. You understand me?
Just move spontaneously, that’s all. If you plan for it, the spontaneity is lost, and once spontaneity is lost, everything is lost. Love is no more there; it has disappeared. Just leave yourself in the hands of existence – so be prayerful.
Every time that you make love, just be prayerful together. Just become vehicles, and you will see many things happening…tremendous experiences will come to you. You will even become more scared sometimes because you will be doing things you cannot imagine that you can do. Things will be happening that you could never have dreamt of. You will become so full of energy that you will not be able to believe that this is your energy. It is not yours.
This is the greatest technique. The greatest technique is always a non-technique. If you cannot succeed in it, then I will give you techniques; they are a second choice. If somebody fails in love, then techniques…. If somebody succeeds in love, then there is no need of any technique; love will take care.
And many things will happen, and there will be changes every day. There will be new territory to be traveled every moment. With techniques everything becomes an old thing. You do it again and again; it becomes a habit, a dead routine. Mechanically you repeat it, you perform it – and finished. Love is always new, and that’s the beauty of it. So don’t destroy it right now. If you cannot succeed, then tell me, but I say you will succeed.
Let me see if you can succeed or not. Face each other and hold hands. Close your eyes and let your energies move as if you have become one energy. If something happens in the body, allow it.
[They are both quite still. Osho shines his penlight on both of their temples and on the man’s face, then sits back with eyes closed for a minute.] Try, but it will be a little hard, mm. Tell me after fifteen days. It will be difficult – you both have blocks.
[the woman] One of my blocks is that I still have a lot of feelings for my past lover, so it is hard to be total now. I’d like to be free of this. How can I do it?
Just try what I am saying. First be prayerful together, and then while making love, go wild – don’t be civilized at all. The wildness will destroy the block completely – that’s what is needed.
[to the man] And help her to be wild, provoke her to be wild. And you also be a little wild. It will go – so don’t be worried – but a little work on it is needed, and once it goes it will be very very good.