The first question:
How to slow down?
Life is not going anywhere; there is no goal to it, no destination. Life is non-purposive, it simply is. Unless this understanding penetrates your heart, you cannot slow down.
Slowing down is not a question of any “how”; it is not a question of technique, method. We reduce everything into a how. There is a great how-to-ism all over the world, and every person, particularly the modern contemporary mind, has become a how-to-er: how to do this, how to do that, how to grow rich, how to be successful, how to influence people and win friends, how to meditate, even how to love. The day is not far off when some stupid guy is going to ask how to breathe.
It is not a question of how at all. Don’t reduce life into technology. Life reduced into technology loses all flavor of joy.
I have come across a book; the name of the book is hilarious. Its name is You Must Relax. Now the must is the problem, but it is there. It is because of the must that nobody is able to relax. Now another must on top of all other musts – “you must relax” – is going to create more tension in your life. Try to relax, and you will find that you feel more tense than ever. Try harder and you will feel more and more tense.
Relaxation is not a consequence, is not a result of some activity; it is the glow of understanding.
This is the first thing I would like to relate to you: life is purposeless. It is very hard to accept it. And why is it so hard to accept that life is purposeless? It is hard because without purpose the ego cannot exist. It is hard to conceive that life has no goal because without any goal being there, there is no point in having a mind, in having an ego.
The ego can exist only in a goal-oriented vision; the mind can exist only in the future. The purpose brings future in; the goal creates the space for thoughts to move, desires to arise. And then naturally there is hurry, because life is short. Today we are here and tomorrow we are gone – maybe the next moment.
Life is very short. If there is a goal to be achieved, there is bound to be hurry. And there is bound to be worry, a constant worry “whether I am going to make it or not” – a trembling heart, a shaking of the foundations. You will remain almost always in an inner earthquake, you will always be on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Have a goal, and sooner or later you will end up on the psychoanalyst’s couch.