Vatsyayana condemns that posture, and his condemnation is very scientific. It is still not accepted by sexologists, but they will have to accept it. The woman has to be on top, not the man. The man has to remain meditative, and the woman has to do every kind of thing that she wants to do. That is the only possibility for the man and woman both to attain to orgasm, because there is a disparity between man and woman: the man comes to ejaculation too soon. And there is no reverse gear; you cannot even say, “Stop! Stop!” Nothing will happen, nobody is going to listen to you. The marathon race has begun. The woman is very slow in warming up, and if she does some push-ups she may warm up. And if the man remains meditative, cool and calm, the marathon race can wait till the woman is ready and gives the signal: “Okay!” Only then can they have together an experience which is very close to meditation.
Vatsyana’s insistence is that because of this orgasmic experience, the idea of meditation was born. Meditation is not preceded, it is succeeded by orgasmic experience. Because in orgasmic experience the mind stops, time stops; for a moment you are nowhere…or everywhere. That experience of being nowhere and everywhere is so pleasant that one wants to experience it independently, not to be dependent on the sexual partner. And one has the secret: that if mind stops and if time is forgotten – no past, no future, just this moment…
This moment is not part of time. And if there is no thought, suddenly a tremendous blissfulness – as if flowers have started showering over you.
And who is the idiot who calls a joke concerned with sex “dirty”? No joke is dirty. It has become dirty in your minds because your priests have been preaching against sex. Because sex became dirty, naturally anything concerned with sex has become dirty.
And, Premdipa, I feel sorry for you. It seems you have not known anything wild, that you have not screamed with joy and danced with joy. Go to Avirbhava, learn something about how to scream!
If two lovers really love, then the whole neighborhood is going to ring bells that it is happening, firecrackers – it has happened! But people have been taught to be silent, to make love deep in the night when everybody is asleep, when in fact the lovers are both half asleep! Cover yourself under the blanket, do it quick. Naturally, it becomes dirty.
It is not dirty. It is one of the nicest gifts of nature to living beings. It can trigger sources of higher consciousness in you.
I am really sorry, Premdipa. You should learn a few of the really wildest and dirtiest jokes. I don’t know any – just for your sake, I have been working hard to find out what joke is dirty. A few I have found…
But you say, “I find myself unable to laugh.” Are you frozen? So, wherever Premdipa is sitting…when you all laugh and you see somebody is not laughing, do everything – poke them. At least let her giggle, if she cannot laugh.
This is the house of laughter, it is not a church – that is the dirtiest word.
And Premdipa is saying, “I find myself reacting.” Wasting such a beautiful chance! The same energy that could have become laughter becomes reaction. And what do you gain by reaction? What is the ultimate fulfillment out of reaction? It makes you fascist, Nazi, fundamentalist Christian. You are on the way to hell, remember: doing the goose step!
I have heard that when I left…I would not have left if I had known beforehand that Niskriya was going to do the goose step. He did it perfectly, although he did it wrongly. He is not a Nazi.