So you go on cultivating your personality. When you are feeling hurt within, sad, even then you go on smiling. Consider whether your smile is just a painted smile on the face, just on the lips, an exertion by the lips, or whether it is coming from deep down and spreading onto the lips. Is the source rooted somewhere deep, or is there no source. Is it just a painted smile? When you smile, observe it and you will come to know when the smile is false and when the smile is real.
When someone is sad or someone is in misery, or someone has lost a friend, a beloved, a husband, a wife, you go to him. Your face looks sad and sorrowful. Remember, and consider deep within, whether this sadness is real or whether you are just displaying it, and deep down you are simply bored, deep down you are simply preparing a way to leave. Deep down you are thinking of other things, not at all interested in the person: his misery, his suffering – not at all. Go on considering this, and you will come to know two different layers within you – one, which is the false, the personality…
The word personality is very significant. It comes from a Greek word persona. Persona means “the mask.” In Greek drama the actors used masks, false faces. Those false faces were called personae. And from that, the word personality comes. It is beautiful. It means that you are acting through a false face, it is not you. You are hiding behind a false face because you cannot reveal your real face.
I am not saying to necessarily – or unnecessarily – go on revealing your real face everywhere. There is no need: in some places the persona is needed. But be clear that this is the persona; this is not you. Inside, you must know when you are acting and when you are real. You must not be deceived by your acting. You must not become identified with your acting. I know that faces are needed; otherwise it will be difficult to live in society, very difficult. Faces are good in a way. They facilitate, they work as lubricants. And in a big society, with so many people, you need not reveal your reality everywhere.
Someone meets you in the morning, and you feel disturbed by it… You think “Why have I seen this man’s face this morning? His face may destroy my whole day.” But, outwardly, you smile and say “Good morning. How happy I am to see you!” Inwardly, you are not happy at all.
But this is okay as far as manners are concerned. It would not be good to say to the man “I am feeling very unhappy. You have destroyed my morning. Your face is dangerous. I am afraid that seeing you will ruin my whole day.” This would not be good. Unnecessary – unnecessarily disturbing to the other man; there is no need.
But you must know what is a mask and what is real. You must be aware of what is going on within. That is your real being. And what is going on, on the face is just a social utility. If you can make a clear-cut distinction between you and your personality, then the personality becomes just like clothing. You can drop it at any moment and become naked.