Of course, this fantasy is bound to be shattered; when the reality erupts, your dreaming mind will be shattered. It happens many times. You fall in love with a woman; one day suddenly the dream has disappeared. The woman does not look so beautiful as she used to look. You cannot believe how you were deceived into it. You start finding faults with the woman. You start finding rationalizations – as if she tricked you into it, as if she deceived, as if she pretended to be beautiful while she was not. Nobody is cheating you, nobody can cheat you, except your own desiring and dreaming mind. You created the illusion. You never saw the reality of the woman. Sooner or later reality will win over.
That’s how all love affairs are always on the rocks. And lovers become afraid, by and by, to see the reality – they avoid. The wife avoids the husband, the husband avoids the wife. They don’t look direct. They are afraid. They are already aware that the dream has disappeared. Now, don’t rock the boat. Now, avoid each other.
I have heard:
A man was very much worried about his wife. He had heard rumors that she was moving with somebody. Naturally, he was disturbed. He asked a detective to follow the woman and to make a film: with whom she is moving, what they are doing.
Within a few weeks, the detective was back with the film ready. The film was shown to the man. He watched it; again and again he would shake his head as if he could not believe it. The wife was swimming with somebody, was going to a movie, hugging, kissing, making love to the man, and he was shaking his head in tremendous disbelief. The detective could not contain himself: “Why does he go on shaking his head?”
Finally, when the film was over, the man said, “I cannot believe it!”
The detective said, “This is too much. You have seen the film, now what more proof do you need?”
He said, “Don’t misunderstand me. I cannot believe that my wife can make somebody so happy. Now try to find out what that man sees in my wife, because I have lived with her and I don’t see anything at all. What does this man see in her?”
Husbands stop seeing things that they used to see in their wives. Wives stop seeing things in their husbands that they used to see. What happens? The reality remains the same, only against the reality the dream cannot win forever. Sooner or later the dream is shattered. And that happens in all directions.
You are after money, you are dreaming about money; you never look at the people who have money, you don’t see them. You are just after money. You think when the money is there everything will be beautiful. Then you will rest and then you will enjoy, and then you will celebrate and sing and dance, and do whatsoever you always wanted to do when there was no money to do it and no opportunity to do it.